Beach day! Decided to take the girls to the beach to celebrate my eldest finally turning three years old. We had a great little party within our immediate family on her actual birthday, and then decided on Friday (today) to take her to the beach.
Does anyone else ever get tired of random strangers walking up to you and offering "helpful tips" on how to raise your kids? I don't think the general public doesn't seem to realize...these kids are NOT theirs! I don't care how you raise your kids, or how you think my daughter is a little too young to be swimming in the water. She's a pro-swimmer, has been since she was 1. She gets floaties, we keep an eye on her, and are always within 2 feet of her to make sure she doesn't "drown".
So there we were, at the beach, we had just finished getting the sunscreen on the girls. A mighty task with the little ones squirming and wanting to run right into the water. I'm pretty proud of the fact that my eldest actually WAITS now for one of us to be next to her before she takes off running, curls flying in the wind.
But this beach day was different, we had a group of 20 yr old girls laying down next to us. Most were tanning without their tops on, and let me tell you...I'm tired of seeing younger chicks with barely any clothes on, fat as hell, sitting near me. Newsflash: YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTIVE!
So there we were watching the eldest play in the waves, having a grand time like always, and one of the topless wonders walks up to me. I'm like, "ok, that's a little odd walking up to a random stranger." Then she utters the only words that I absolutely despise from non-parents. "Are you sure it's good to let her swim in the ocean without you holding onto her?"
Are you serious, you fat cow? Not only does this chick not have kids, but she is not my child's parent...so obviously she has no fucking clue that my daughter is a water baby. Also, the waves weren't even "waves" more like small little rifts. Not even waves. My husband is standing right next to her!!!
To all of you non-parents...do not openly question how another person is raising their children if they are obviously 100% safe. Unless you see a parent all out abuse a child, butt the fuck out. I'm pretty that having young children instantly labels us as "new parents" to some of the older folks, but hey guys! We have been raising our children fairly effectively since they've been born. Unless we are outright asking you for advice, do NOT give your advice out. Most of us could care less for your advice about socks, swimming, talking etc.
It's kind of like being pregnant, you don't want the entire world rubbing on your stomach. It is a gross invasion of privacy, and stepping into my "bubble". Just like with my kids, do not step within 3 feet of them and do not offer your shitty advice to me.
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Friday, June 12, 2009
June 12th, 2009
I took my daughter to the park today again. I had a busy day all day, and got home with the kids in full uproar. Since it was around park time, I decided it was best just to take them out earlier and let them run out their energy before dinner.
Not many kids there, 3 total ages 6-9. Complete angels. No problems. The mother starts talking to my hubby and I about how parents in our area suck at parenting and how tired she is of it. (I agree with her 100%) Her kids are 2 of the angels, and she's keeping a close eye on them making sure they are good with my 3 yr old. No problems from them at all, so cute to watch them interact with my kid. Very gentle and helpful.
There has been a blond-headed little boy that shows up around this time, for about a week now, and he's really rough. He's about 6-7 yrs old, has no parental supervision and pushes/hits kids. He seems pretty much normal, except that he gets away with a lot of crap normal kids wouldn't if their parents were watching. Today was the same as every other day that this kid shows up. I haven't said anything for a week about his behavior because I figured eventually he'd stop or get told not to by his parents. Wrong move. Today I snapped.
For those of you wondering how my cursing works, I DO curse around my kids when I am extremely angry at something...like another parent in my face. I do NOT watch my language around them because the rest of the world curses just as much as I do. Hell, there is more cursing on TV then what comes out of my mouth. Anyone that usually tries to hold it against me are usually grasping at straws, and know they are goddamn wrong! My daughter is old enough to know that cursing is bad and mommy has a flaw. She always knows I'm not cursing at her.
Okay so my limit to attacks or hits on my kid is 3. Attack 1 - Kid shows up and runs up to the slide that my daughter is on, slides down into my daughter (and one of the other older kids that went down with her) and kicks my daughter in the face. Not kewl, but I understand it could have been a mistake. I let that one go.
Attack 2 - My daughter is sitting at the top of the slide waiting for the other kids to get off before she goes down. I taught her to wait, and not rush it because I don't want her hurting the other kids. Here comes trouble-boy again. He SHOVES my daughter really hard down the slide (mind you she's holding onto the sides of the slide trying to hold herself there, but he was stronger so she went down the slide...that's how hard he pushed). My daughter goes down the slide, and is trying to get back up off the ground.
Attack 3 - When she stands up, he comes down the slide almost immediately after pushing her and kicks her in the face again. By now, I KNOW this was NO accident. He did that ON PURPOSE because he didn't want to WAIT 10s for her to go down first. By the way, I'm rushing to her side and checking her out. She has 3 bruises on her face, dirty as hell from playing, and is crying because she's in pain. She also has 2 brusies on the insides of her arms from holding onto the slide that tightly.
I lost it. I admit it, I cursed at a child. I said "Hey, don't touch my kid, you little POS!". I'm sorry for cursing at him, but then again this has been going on for a week. So obviously, I have some held-in anger that he has yet to be punished for doing these things. Obviously I might of overreacted a little bit, but at this point hitting my kid purposely is NOT good. I pretty much just lost my cool because of the marks on her. That was the final straw for me.
The trouble-boy runs off, looks fine, and I forget about the whole thing. I'm watching the kids play again when I hear a hysterical crying boy. I look up and guess who's back! He's crying loudly, and holding his mom's hand. (She exists?!?!) She walks up and gets all up in my face. This is our yelling match, husband included.
Trouble-boy's Mom: You need to watch your language around the kids! How dare you yell at my child!
(She didn't even bother to ask WHY he was yelled at, and didn't even approach civilly..I would have responded differently otherwise.)
Me: I will say whatever the fuck I feel like whenever the goddamn hell I feel like it. Your child is abusive to the other children, and you need to keep an eye on him!
(I added more curses just to piss her off...tacky I know, but it worked. Also, free country people!)
Trouble-boy's Mom: My son is mentally handicapped and he doesn't know any better!
DH: Well if he is mentally handicapped you need to either watch him better, or put a sign on him letting know all of other parents that are putting up with him...that he IS mentally handicapped! WE are forced to babysit YOUR kid for YOU, how about you be a parent and watch it!
(He was just trying to get the point across that she wasn't watching him...who wants a raving bitch in your face like this, anyways? Talk about a drama whore)
Me: I agree with my husband. You weren't watching him, you never do. Just because your child is mentally handicapped (he seemed like a normal kid the entire week I've seen him, I don't buy that he is handicapped), retarded, or just plain stupid does NOT give him the excuse to ABUSE MY KID! You are seriously dillusional to think otherwise, and you need to learn to discipline your child. Don't come screaming at us just because he got into trouble for doing something bad, scream at your kid for hitting the other kids on the playground!
Touble-boy's Mom (while dragging her kid and walking away to the building): The rest of you kids shouldn't be here either, because SHE (pointing at me) is a BAD influence!
So cursing now makes me a bad parent and/or bad influence? The other parents there agreed with me that I was right. They had seen the entire thing. But apparently, her idiot kid is #1 and should even be #1 to the rest of us. I may curse, but I'm a fantastic parent. I think personally she just didn't like me yelling at her kid, because her kid is soooo "special".
She basically saw it as me disciplining her child, and got pissed off about it. When...she wasn't being a good parent to start with by WATCHING her child. I'm pretty sure if she got her ass outside and actually sat on the bench like the rest of us, her kid would NOT act like that. I think it's absolutely 100% WRONG NOT to discipline (either with a stern talking or a time-out) your child when they do something wrong. If they aren't told what is not allowed, they continue to do it.
This is my personal opinin on the experience. She threw out the retarded thing to get sympathy (so we'd stop arguing with her, and let her yell at us) and to excuse her child's behavior. I think she honestly saw how young we "look" (we look to be about 18-19, but we are really 26-29). She thought she could yell us into submission and that we wouldn't yell back. She was wrong, and will pay the price again if she doesn't watch her kid tomorrow.
I am 100% right in this instance. I hate parents like this. Especially the ones that completely disregard what their kid did and yell at the other parents before thinking. I overreact to a lot of things, but if it were my kid that came crying to me...I'd ask what happened. Then I asked the parent calmly. Inform the parent that I'll watch my kid closer next time, and inform my kid that although cursing is bad they did a bad thing by abusing the kids.
I'm also slightly under the impression that since the kid ran away NOT crying and didn't come back for a while that he only told his mother that I had "cursed". Not what he had done or that I had even yelled at him. That's why I thinks he walked away in a huff and was mainly focused on my cursing, not on anything her child did wrong. I'm not sure if this is correct, but even if a PARENT cursed once at an abusive kid, yell at your kid and don't make matters worse.
Not many kids there, 3 total ages 6-9. Complete angels. No problems. The mother starts talking to my hubby and I about how parents in our area suck at parenting and how tired she is of it. (I agree with her 100%) Her kids are 2 of the angels, and she's keeping a close eye on them making sure they are good with my 3 yr old. No problems from them at all, so cute to watch them interact with my kid. Very gentle and helpful.
There has been a blond-headed little boy that shows up around this time, for about a week now, and he's really rough. He's about 6-7 yrs old, has no parental supervision and pushes/hits kids. He seems pretty much normal, except that he gets away with a lot of crap normal kids wouldn't if their parents were watching. Today was the same as every other day that this kid shows up. I haven't said anything for a week about his behavior because I figured eventually he'd stop or get told not to by his parents. Wrong move. Today I snapped.
For those of you wondering how my cursing works, I DO curse around my kids when I am extremely angry at something...like another parent in my face. I do NOT watch my language around them because the rest of the world curses just as much as I do. Hell, there is more cursing on TV then what comes out of my mouth. Anyone that usually tries to hold it against me are usually grasping at straws, and know they are goddamn wrong! My daughter is old enough to know that cursing is bad and mommy has a flaw. She always knows I'm not cursing at her.
Okay so my limit to attacks or hits on my kid is 3. Attack 1 - Kid shows up and runs up to the slide that my daughter is on, slides down into my daughter (and one of the other older kids that went down with her) and kicks my daughter in the face. Not kewl, but I understand it could have been a mistake. I let that one go.
Attack 2 - My daughter is sitting at the top of the slide waiting for the other kids to get off before she goes down. I taught her to wait, and not rush it because I don't want her hurting the other kids. Here comes trouble-boy again. He SHOVES my daughter really hard down the slide (mind you she's holding onto the sides of the slide trying to hold herself there, but he was stronger so she went down the slide...that's how hard he pushed). My daughter goes down the slide, and is trying to get back up off the ground.
Attack 3 - When she stands up, he comes down the slide almost immediately after pushing her and kicks her in the face again. By now, I KNOW this was NO accident. He did that ON PURPOSE because he didn't want to WAIT 10s for her to go down first. By the way, I'm rushing to her side and checking her out. She has 3 bruises on her face, dirty as hell from playing, and is crying because she's in pain. She also has 2 brusies on the insides of her arms from holding onto the slide that tightly.
I lost it. I admit it, I cursed at a child. I said "Hey, don't touch my kid, you little POS!". I'm sorry for cursing at him, but then again this has been going on for a week. So obviously, I have some held-in anger that he has yet to be punished for doing these things. Obviously I might of overreacted a little bit, but at this point hitting my kid purposely is NOT good. I pretty much just lost my cool because of the marks on her. That was the final straw for me.
The trouble-boy runs off, looks fine, and I forget about the whole thing. I'm watching the kids play again when I hear a hysterical crying boy. I look up and guess who's back! He's crying loudly, and holding his mom's hand. (She exists?!?!) She walks up and gets all up in my face. This is our yelling match, husband included.
Trouble-boy's Mom: You need to watch your language around the kids! How dare you yell at my child!
(She didn't even bother to ask WHY he was yelled at, and didn't even approach civilly..I would have responded differently otherwise.)
Me: I will say whatever the fuck I feel like whenever the goddamn hell I feel like it. Your child is abusive to the other children, and you need to keep an eye on him!
(I added more curses just to piss her off...tacky I know, but it worked. Also, free country people!)
Trouble-boy's Mom: My son is mentally handicapped and he doesn't know any better!
DH: Well if he is mentally handicapped you need to either watch him better, or put a sign on him letting know all of other parents that are putting up with him...that he IS mentally handicapped! WE are forced to babysit YOUR kid for YOU, how about you be a parent and watch it!
(He was just trying to get the point across that she wasn't watching him...who wants a raving bitch in your face like this, anyways? Talk about a drama whore)
Me: I agree with my husband. You weren't watching him, you never do. Just because your child is mentally handicapped (he seemed like a normal kid the entire week I've seen him, I don't buy that he is handicapped), retarded, or just plain stupid does NOT give him the excuse to ABUSE MY KID! You are seriously dillusional to think otherwise, and you need to learn to discipline your child. Don't come screaming at us just because he got into trouble for doing something bad, scream at your kid for hitting the other kids on the playground!
Touble-boy's Mom (while dragging her kid and walking away to the building): The rest of you kids shouldn't be here either, because SHE (pointing at me) is a BAD influence!
So cursing now makes me a bad parent and/or bad influence? The other parents there agreed with me that I was right. They had seen the entire thing. But apparently, her idiot kid is #1 and should even be #1 to the rest of us. I may curse, but I'm a fantastic parent. I think personally she just didn't like me yelling at her kid, because her kid is soooo "special".
She basically saw it as me disciplining her child, and got pissed off about it. When...she wasn't being a good parent to start with by WATCHING her child. I'm pretty sure if she got her ass outside and actually sat on the bench like the rest of us, her kid would NOT act like that. I think it's absolutely 100% WRONG NOT to discipline (either with a stern talking or a time-out) your child when they do something wrong. If they aren't told what is not allowed, they continue to do it.
This is my personal opinin on the experience. She threw out the retarded thing to get sympathy (so we'd stop arguing with her, and let her yell at us) and to excuse her child's behavior. I think she honestly saw how young we "look" (we look to be about 18-19, but we are really 26-29). She thought she could yell us into submission and that we wouldn't yell back. She was wrong, and will pay the price again if she doesn't watch her kid tomorrow.
I am 100% right in this instance. I hate parents like this. Especially the ones that completely disregard what their kid did and yell at the other parents before thinking. I overreact to a lot of things, but if it were my kid that came crying to me...I'd ask what happened. Then I asked the parent calmly. Inform the parent that I'll watch my kid closer next time, and inform my kid that although cursing is bad they did a bad thing by abusing the kids.
I'm also slightly under the impression that since the kid ran away NOT crying and didn't come back for a while that he only told his mother that I had "cursed". Not what he had done or that I had even yelled at him. That's why I thinks he walked away in a huff and was mainly focused on my cursing, not on anything her child did wrong. I'm not sure if this is correct, but even if a PARENT cursed once at an abusive kid, yell at your kid and don't make matters worse.
June 11th, 2009
This will be my very first blog. I am very blunt and harsh with a lot of my opinions. I also curse a lot - deal with it or click the little "x" button. I feel that it is best that I rant (mostly over the internet) about terrible parents I come across. They could be parents (mostly), nannies, or just babysitters. I could care less, the ones I rant about suck!
I took my girls to the local play area today. It's a small outdoor play area that can hold about maybe 10 smaller kids total. Any child of any age can go to it, there are no restrictions. I don't agree with this, and feel there should be posted signs to limit the ages. I'll get into that in a few.
I got there about an hour before dinner time, our usual play-time. Usually there isn't that many people at the play area, but today it was packed. There were about 15 older children there (aged about 12 yrs old), 8 younger kids (ages varying from 7 months to 4 yrs old), and 5 parents. Tons of kids unsupervised, of course.
I have a firm belief that if your child cannot actively play on play equipment without your help, then you should not be bringing your child to that play area (not counting swings). Some of these other kids are rough, and if you need to hold your kid up to walk, don't take your kid here! You are impeding the other children's fun with your fat ass, and your kid is most likely going to get knocked the fuck over by some older kid! Your 6 month old kid would have just as much fun playing in your backyard, as they do being dragged all across the play equipment. This is a headache for mother's with older kiddlings.
I also believe that at a certain age your kid does NOT need you to constantly "helicopter" around them. Other parents don't like to see you blocking the slide while you watch your kid. Other parents get fed up with the way that you think YOUR kid comes first! I do not care if your kid is autistic or anything else, your kid is in a public place and definately does not come first to strangers like myself. Teach your kid to wait in line and not to push MY kid out of the way. Don't laugh when your kid hits MY child and say it's "cute". It's not cute, your kid is a brat!
On that note, when your kid reaches about the age of 7 they should NOT be playing on the younger kids' toys. Your kids threw rocks at mine today! Now my eldest thinks that is "normal". That is NOT normal. If you are going to send your kids out to play, make sure they aren't being jackasses! At least WATCH them! Don't just send them out and go "hey they are someone else's problem now". Not cool!
Now I'll describe the events that transpired. It was hell. It's always hell. Not because of my kids, but because of EVERYONE else. I may overreact about a few things, but I am VERY cautious with my kiddlings. I'm not a helicopter parent to my 3 yr old daughter, and I keep a close eye on her (just in case she wants to "fly"). I am not like the other parents in that I don't let my 1 yr old (who can barely walk on her own) play on the equipment. I let her play in the grass beside me while I watch the two of them play. Neither ever goes far, and my youngest knows the meaning of "no". I can call out a "Hey DD1 NO!" and she will stop what she is doing immediately.
We showed up, my daughter immediately grabbed her stuffy and headed for the slide. Like always. There were 4 parents on the play equipment, with their younger kids that can barely walk and 2 toddlers that obviously didn't need their "help" playing. My daughter was forced to play around the parents and kids. (By the way I love it when other parents yell at my daughter to shut up when she's squealing in delight. She's a kid, deal with it. Public outside place asshole, not your house. There is no such thing as an "inside voice" when you are OUTSIDE.)
Mind you this play equipment isn't very "stable". Having just ONE parent on it is pretty risky, so I was keeping a close eye on my kids and checking to see how stable it was the entire time. Not a good start for playtime. Not a good idea for the idiot parents to get on it, especially when majority of them are obese! At least wait until some of the kids leave and you are mostly alone before you park your fat ass on the top.
Obviously she wasn't having much fun, what with it being overpacked and the parents obviously in the goddamn way. She couldn't even make it to the slide. Some fucking jerk was blocking it. I mean a "parent" was blocking it. Guess what! His oldest kid wasn't even on the play equipment! His oldest kid was playing in the grass! Get the fuck off the play equipment! (His wife was watching and holding the other one on the equipment)
But to make matters worse, whenever she wanted to go down the slide (which is a lot!), she had to squeeze her little body past his (he was basically humping my daughter) and then go down the slide. That went on for a good 2 hours, all the while his kid is NOT on the play equipment. Pissed me off entirely. If that's not a pedophilia move, it's pretty fucking close. Do NOT make MY kid hug YOUR body just so she can play on a slide, you fucking perv!
I'm very leery of strangers around my kiddling, let's just say I was getting irritated within the first 10minutes of it. We have a ton of pedophiles living around here, so I'm very cautious. After a while though, she eventually stopped playing with the slide and started talking to the other kids on the ground.
The ground of this particular playground is made out of old rubber tires for padding on the ground. You can pick up the old pieces and move them. It's like the old playgrounds with the pieces of wood on the ground. The older kids like to throw the pieces at each other, regardless of whoever is around. I make sure I am at a good distance away with my youngest (so she doesn't get hit), and that I am making sure to tell my DD1 not to throw them too.
Another theory of: if you actually watched your fucking kid, you wouldn't be forcing your kids' bad examples on mine! I'm getting tired of telling my kid not to follow your kids' examples. IE throwing rubber pieces, climbing slides the wrong way when kids are coming down, hitting kids in the face before they even get up after going down the slide, and of course cursing!
She seemed fine after a while, but I suddenly hear the guy humping the slide call out "Don't throw that stuff!". He wasn't talking to my kid, but I was a little miffed by his yell. His kid isn't on the playground, and his other kid (prolly the age of 7months) was with his wife right next to him. So obviously, either get your kid off the playground and don't yell at other people's kids...or get yourself off the fucking equipment.
Granted, I'm a little miffed because I didn't say anything. I never really say anything about this type of thing because I don't want parents down my throat for "yelling at their kid". But in my head I'm having a conversation with myself. This is how it went down:
- "What the fuck is he complaining about, his kid shouldn't even be on the playground! Hell, his eldest isn't even nearby! Who knows where the fuck that kid went."
- "Well, if that's how he's going to yell about throwing things...maybe I should yell at him for blocking the slide and being a pervert!" (Seriously we have 90 pedophiles living in a 5 block radius of my house, I worry about it a lot)
- "I hope to god DD1 doesn't try to throw stuff today."
- "Where was his yell when HIS kid came within an inch of hitting my daughter on the slide!" (She had gone down the slide and was picking herself up. He pushed his kid down the slide - knowing my daughter was at the bottom - and I had to run fast to grab my daughter out of the way)
That's pretty much where I had to get up and scout a bit holding DD2, to make sure he wasn't yelling at my kid. Granted I was watching, but now I've been alerted to an overactive parent. New parents, aren't they cute? But basically, she was having a lot of fun, so I let her continue to play.
Aside from his wife holding the too young kid on the playground, her HUGE (about the size of my DESK) ass blocking the kids, she made a comment that pissed me off. My daughter is a little social butterfly. She doesn't really talk, but she says "hi" and jumbles words to other kids. My DD1 went up to the 7month old (remember younger sister, she's used to younger kids) and was talking. I called out to DD1 to go "play". Meaning for DD1 to leave the kid alone, and get the fuck away from crazy husband's wife. Just covering my bases, you know.
Then she says "It's fine". ?! Imagine my shock when I heard that. I know she was probably trying to be polite, but I was not a happy camper. With that one sentence she underminded what I had told MY child to do, and was basically overruling my reaction to her and her husband. I didn't WANT my kid near HER or HER KIDS! Obviously it's NOT fine.
I know I may be overreacting, but still...she underminded me in one sentence and that was enough for me to lose it and eventually leave. I dislike parents that get involved in my kids' life. I don't know them, I don't want my kid near them. End.of.story.
But aside from today, I have years of bad parents to post about. I'll post a new story tomorrow. Maybe I'll tell you about how everytime my husband goes with us to the play area, ALL the kids run up to him and call him daddy. We have yet to figure out why they do that, or why they are always trying to play with him. Seriously people, play with your fucking kids but be respectful of other people's kids!
I took my girls to the local play area today. It's a small outdoor play area that can hold about maybe 10 smaller kids total. Any child of any age can go to it, there are no restrictions. I don't agree with this, and feel there should be posted signs to limit the ages. I'll get into that in a few.
I got there about an hour before dinner time, our usual play-time. Usually there isn't that many people at the play area, but today it was packed. There were about 15 older children there (aged about 12 yrs old), 8 younger kids (ages varying from 7 months to 4 yrs old), and 5 parents. Tons of kids unsupervised, of course.
I have a firm belief that if your child cannot actively play on play equipment without your help, then you should not be bringing your child to that play area (not counting swings). Some of these other kids are rough, and if you need to hold your kid up to walk, don't take your kid here! You are impeding the other children's fun with your fat ass, and your kid is most likely going to get knocked the fuck over by some older kid! Your 6 month old kid would have just as much fun playing in your backyard, as they do being dragged all across the play equipment. This is a headache for mother's with older kiddlings.
I also believe that at a certain age your kid does NOT need you to constantly "helicopter" around them. Other parents don't like to see you blocking the slide while you watch your kid. Other parents get fed up with the way that you think YOUR kid comes first! I do not care if your kid is autistic or anything else, your kid is in a public place and definately does not come first to strangers like myself. Teach your kid to wait in line and not to push MY kid out of the way. Don't laugh when your kid hits MY child and say it's "cute". It's not cute, your kid is a brat!
On that note, when your kid reaches about the age of 7 they should NOT be playing on the younger kids' toys. Your kids threw rocks at mine today! Now my eldest thinks that is "normal". That is NOT normal. If you are going to send your kids out to play, make sure they aren't being jackasses! At least WATCH them! Don't just send them out and go "hey they are someone else's problem now". Not cool!
Now I'll describe the events that transpired. It was hell. It's always hell. Not because of my kids, but because of EVERYONE else. I may overreact about a few things, but I am VERY cautious with my kiddlings. I'm not a helicopter parent to my 3 yr old daughter, and I keep a close eye on her (just in case she wants to "fly"). I am not like the other parents in that I don't let my 1 yr old (who can barely walk on her own) play on the equipment. I let her play in the grass beside me while I watch the two of them play. Neither ever goes far, and my youngest knows the meaning of "no". I can call out a "Hey DD1 NO!" and she will stop what she is doing immediately.
We showed up, my daughter immediately grabbed her stuffy and headed for the slide. Like always. There were 4 parents on the play equipment, with their younger kids that can barely walk and 2 toddlers that obviously didn't need their "help" playing. My daughter was forced to play around the parents and kids. (By the way I love it when other parents yell at my daughter to shut up when she's squealing in delight. She's a kid, deal with it. Public outside place asshole, not your house. There is no such thing as an "inside voice" when you are OUTSIDE.)
Mind you this play equipment isn't very "stable". Having just ONE parent on it is pretty risky, so I was keeping a close eye on my kids and checking to see how stable it was the entire time. Not a good start for playtime. Not a good idea for the idiot parents to get on it, especially when majority of them are obese! At least wait until some of the kids leave and you are mostly alone before you park your fat ass on the top.
Obviously she wasn't having much fun, what with it being overpacked and the parents obviously in the goddamn way. She couldn't even make it to the slide. Some fucking jerk was blocking it. I mean a "parent" was blocking it. Guess what! His oldest kid wasn't even on the play equipment! His oldest kid was playing in the grass! Get the fuck off the play equipment! (His wife was watching and holding the other one on the equipment)
But to make matters worse, whenever she wanted to go down the slide (which is a lot!), she had to squeeze her little body past his (he was basically humping my daughter) and then go down the slide. That went on for a good 2 hours, all the while his kid is NOT on the play equipment. Pissed me off entirely. If that's not a pedophilia move, it's pretty fucking close. Do NOT make MY kid hug YOUR body just so she can play on a slide, you fucking perv!
I'm very leery of strangers around my kiddling, let's just say I was getting irritated within the first 10minutes of it. We have a ton of pedophiles living around here, so I'm very cautious. After a while though, she eventually stopped playing with the slide and started talking to the other kids on the ground.
The ground of this particular playground is made out of old rubber tires for padding on the ground. You can pick up the old pieces and move them. It's like the old playgrounds with the pieces of wood on the ground. The older kids like to throw the pieces at each other, regardless of whoever is around. I make sure I am at a good distance away with my youngest (so she doesn't get hit), and that I am making sure to tell my DD1 not to throw them too.
Another theory of: if you actually watched your fucking kid, you wouldn't be forcing your kids' bad examples on mine! I'm getting tired of telling my kid not to follow your kids' examples. IE throwing rubber pieces, climbing slides the wrong way when kids are coming down, hitting kids in the face before they even get up after going down the slide, and of course cursing!
She seemed fine after a while, but I suddenly hear the guy humping the slide call out "Don't throw that stuff!". He wasn't talking to my kid, but I was a little miffed by his yell. His kid isn't on the playground, and his other kid (prolly the age of 7months) was with his wife right next to him. So obviously, either get your kid off the playground and don't yell at other people's kids...or get yourself off the fucking equipment.
Granted, I'm a little miffed because I didn't say anything. I never really say anything about this type of thing because I don't want parents down my throat for "yelling at their kid". But in my head I'm having a conversation with myself. This is how it went down:
- "What the fuck is he complaining about, his kid shouldn't even be on the playground! Hell, his eldest isn't even nearby! Who knows where the fuck that kid went."
- "Well, if that's how he's going to yell about throwing things...maybe I should yell at him for blocking the slide and being a pervert!" (Seriously we have 90 pedophiles living in a 5 block radius of my house, I worry about it a lot)
- "I hope to god DD1 doesn't try to throw stuff today."
- "Where was his yell when HIS kid came within an inch of hitting my daughter on the slide!" (She had gone down the slide and was picking herself up. He pushed his kid down the slide - knowing my daughter was at the bottom - and I had to run fast to grab my daughter out of the way)
That's pretty much where I had to get up and scout a bit holding DD2, to make sure he wasn't yelling at my kid. Granted I was watching, but now I've been alerted to an overactive parent. New parents, aren't they cute? But basically, she was having a lot of fun, so I let her continue to play.
Aside from his wife holding the too young kid on the playground, her HUGE (about the size of my DESK) ass blocking the kids, she made a comment that pissed me off. My daughter is a little social butterfly. She doesn't really talk, but she says "hi" and jumbles words to other kids. My DD1 went up to the 7month old (remember younger sister, she's used to younger kids) and was talking. I called out to DD1 to go "play". Meaning for DD1 to leave the kid alone, and get the fuck away from crazy husband's wife. Just covering my bases, you know.
Then she says "It's fine". ?! Imagine my shock when I heard that. I know she was probably trying to be polite, but I was not a happy camper. With that one sentence she underminded what I had told MY child to do, and was basically overruling my reaction to her and her husband. I didn't WANT my kid near HER or HER KIDS! Obviously it's NOT fine.
I know I may be overreacting, but still...she underminded me in one sentence and that was enough for me to lose it and eventually leave. I dislike parents that get involved in my kids' life. I don't know them, I don't want my kid near them. End.of.story.
But aside from today, I have years of bad parents to post about. I'll post a new story tomorrow. Maybe I'll tell you about how everytime my husband goes with us to the play area, ALL the kids run up to him and call him daddy. We have yet to figure out why they do that, or why they are always trying to play with him. Seriously people, play with your fucking kids but be respectful of other people's kids!
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