Thursday, October 29, 2009

Comments on the site

Any comments on this blog that are negative towards myself, my kids, or my family will be removed immediately. I have seen several hateful comments towards myself being lazy (sure sure), being fat (not even close, try again retards), or having too much time on my hands.

You all do realize that I don't post everyday, correct? Obviously most of these posts are written WAY after my kids go to sleep and sometimes take more then one night to even write up a story.

Here are some of those questions or comments.

1) Do you abuse your kids?

A: Absolutely not! Anyone that says that obviously has no idea what kind of mother or person I am.

2) Why do you have so many issues with other people?

A: I have issues with certain types of people. I have issues with the fat woman who won't get out of her car to help her ELDERLY father get into it. I have issues with fat people in general being fat then complaining about how fat they are, yet doing nothing to help themselves NOT be fat.

I have issues with people that abuse their kids, or let their kids abuse other kids. I have issues with murderers, drunk drivers, child abusers, child molestors, and just about anyone else that hurts other people.

3) You seem like a terrible person, what is wrong with you?

A: There is obviously nothing WRONG with me. There is a problem with our society, and it needs to be fixed. Most likely our society won't be fixed anytime soon, so if you continue to read MY blog you will see MANY complaints ABOUT our society.


If anyone has a problem with this blog, you are more then welcome to CLOSE IT OUT! Obviously my FIRST post said as much. So if you don't like what you read, stop reading. This isn't for YOU, this is for ME. Fucking retards.

MIL/GMIL From Hell

I have been reading stories about crazy MILs for a while now and found most of the stories appalling and hillarious. :) That was before I have started to encounter my own mother-in-law from hell. This is very long, so people hang in there and read the entire thing.

For those of you that have no idea the type of person I am, I am a very negative person supposedly (I have very strong opinions and do not flex on most). I don't put up with any drama in my life (my kids cause enough kthx), and I don't put up with anyone screwing with my family. My business is my own, and however I live my life is no one's business. If I want to disclose information, I will do so. But it is not up for anyone not in my direct family line (kids, C, ex) to tell people shit about me.

I'll give you a bit of background so that none of this is very confusing. I was married about 10 years to a wonderful military man, he is the father of my first child. We are seperated and currently going through divorce proceeding, which is very amicable. The reason for our divorce? He spent too many years (did 3 tours in Iraq for over 15months a piece) away from the family so our relationship took a lot of heat. We both eventually came to realize we are better off as best friends and not as lovers.

During the time of my seperation we had both started dating again. He dated a nice girl from ND (where he is from), and I started dating a guy from GA (where my family is from). I am still with my guy, however my guy's mother decided to break up my ex's relationship via hate emails - so they are no longer together.

I had a child with my guy (C), and she is absolutely wonderful. Both my ex and C are very close friends and are both involved with the girls daily. We made sure that the divorce wouldn't hinder anyone from being Daddy and both can see the kids whenever they want. We live right next door to each other.

From day 1 of being with C, his mother has been pretty much hell to put up with. She managed to originally just stir up small trouble and most of it was laughed about. However, she started getting more serious in her attempts and even managed to tell off a girl she had never even met enough that the poor girl didn't want to be involved with my ex because of it. (You really should have read some of the emails, there was everything from accusing him of cheating to attempting to prove he was a child abuser.) Obviously this can be a lot of handle for someone who had no idea who this woman was, etc, so the girl skipped out. My ex has no dated since.

Anyways, I decided that we would let bygones be bygones of all of the little issues that have been caused and wanted to visit my aunt (my cousin had just died). She happens to live in GA so we told C's family we would be down in the area and would like to visit (I wanted the girls to meet their grandparents and be a role in their lives...however if they cause too much trouble, I will cut them out easily and made that very clear). We were convinced to stay over at C's family house while I drove 9 hours a day to visit my aunt down in the southern part of GA. It was a hell drive, but I only wound up seeing her 4 nights out of the 2 week trip so it was good to stay there instead. (I did wind up sleeping in till noon after the drives because I was arriving back at 4am sometimes)

Everything went really well, we had conversations with his mom and his grandmother (also a mil from hell) which were really interesting. I got to know them and they got to know me. The only minor issue we had was at a babyshower for his cousin (she is 16 pregnant by a guy who doesn't have a job and she doesn't have a job, and is wearing brandnew maternity clothes - I wore sweats during my pregnancies. Has her nails done, so I said I didn't want anything to do with it and didn't want to go. I didn't see a point in supporting someone just for spreading their legs and giving them free sh!t because they are too stupid to use birth control.) and at the family BBQ the night before we left.

Now the BBQ was a hell all in itself. My eldest is 3 and very people friendly, but she gets into constant trouble trying to gain people's attention. She did everything from trying to drink beer, jumping in fire ant piles, throwing people's purses into a fire and one of the last straws was her pulling another little girl's hair. I popped her on the tush (not hard, just enough to freak her out) and put her in a time-out (a time-out is the worst for an attention needy child) for 2 minutes. We left soon afterwards (C didn't watch them for a good 3 days before and I just needed a break, didn't even get to eat).

The next day C had to get a rash checked out (turned out to be a fungal infection from a public pool) so I continued to watch the girls and pack up our things since we were leaving that day. Everything went well that morning with the girls, they were really behaved the entire morning during our morning ritual and even helped me pack their clothes. However, they didn't take a nap and were cranky in the car on the drive home.

We left that day (I didn't get to say goodbye, I was packing the car while C said goodbye), and drove the 3 day long trip back home. Not even 3 hours after we left, I start getting phone calls from my family, my ex's family, and C's family (amongst all of our friends). It was a VERY long trip with blizzards and cities closing down for DAYS. Probably the trip from hell. Anyways people are telling me that supposedly his Granny had messaged everyone on my facebook (which is private except to friends) saying that I had abused my kids while I was there and asking if they had ever seen anything like that. (WHAT???) Of course the answer was no, and they all were calling me to tell me about what was being said. A lot of them were angry for me.

Apparently the last HOUR we were there I was seen by someone not in anyone's family (just a cleaning lady who is friend's with C's granny), SLAP my daughter in the face and drag her to a back bedroom to beat her. (Uh, yeah right...I have a strict policy about how my kids are punished, sure) But not only was this not during the entire TWO and a half WEEKS we were there, it just so happened to be the very LAST HOUR we were there. Coincidence? Whatever.
I called my ex (who was babysitting my house for me), and asked him to remove all of the people involved from my facebook friend's list and to put my profile to private. He did (we had no idea who all was REALLY involved, and so we decided to sort it out when we got home. So far it was a he-said she-said deal, and we weren't sure if Granny was drinking at the time or if she really meant what was said. Hence we just removed C's family and decided to add them later when things were sorted).


I then start getting hate text messages (C was getting them so bad I told him to turn off his phone and focus on driving) stating "She knows what she did. She left a bad impression, congratulations. She was seen hurting the girls." Things then went from bad to worse. C decided to call them back and tell them to stop it, because it was rather childish and no one beats the kids. C's mother then did the pity party of how she is disappointed in him for being with someone who is still married and how IIII should be the one to force him to go back to college (I'm not his mother!).

Eventually she found out that she was removed on facebook and ever since then she and Granny have stated that since they were removed on facebook (to dwindle the drama) that I must be hiding something. I'm not sure how they made that leap, maybe you can tell me. Sounds like the rantings of a nutjob.

We spent over 36 hours driving, 3 nights staying in a hotel, and majority of it was spent getting bombarded from his family and everyone else. When I got home there was over 50 messages in my facebook inbox from either people that had been messaged (and didn't call me) and from his family just talking a lot of crap and insulting myself. I later found out that the whole reason this was started was because "they tried to like" me and just couldn't. Uh huh.

I then started playing damage control from the minute I got home (after the long drive I didn't even get to sleep) for about another 12 hours trying to explain to people that we are really sorry for all of the trouble, and asking them to please ignore the messages. So effectively as of today (I arrived home last night), my entire facebook list has been messaged with either insults or accusations. My ex has been called everything from unmoral to a user of C (C doesn't work mind you, I do).

Basically, I'm not sure where to go now. C has tried to stop the drama by calling and talking to them for hours. I have told them that I will contact the police if they continue to harass people and myself. (Obviously isn't stopping them since I literally JUST got a message an hour ago about how they were going to take my kids from me. HA!) I have told them that they will never have anything to do with my kids ever again and that they are NOT welcome anywhere near us. I also am on the verge of filing for a restraining order against the two of them.

So now...I have no idea what the hell to do. I'm up for suggestions if anyone has them. It just seems like C's family is a whole lot of crazy and will continue to cause problems (hence cutting them out). C, my ex, my family, my ex's family, and our friends are all on our side (everyone knows we don't abuse the girls lol). However C's family is literally being forced to draw lines in the sand. Things are going from bad to worse in a flash, and it's been 5 days or so of this.