According to the original video, it was posted on the cameraman's fake facebook account. He is 12 years old, and is seen in a photo holding a loaded gun. The little shit holding the camera instigates the entire event, and the only reason the little 3 yr old was getting beat up? Because she was "spying" on them. Yup. So, they tortue this little girl and attack her because of some perceived slight against them.
This
woman clearly has no problem with what, at least 3, of her children
were doing. She has more of a problem with George Zimmerman. WTF. It may sound horrible, but if I was this
little girls' parents...I'd be calling the cops, or beating the shit
outta the kids. This wasn't just one kid, it was FOUR kids doing this
to a THREE yr old. They are even PROUD of their behavior!! (Thanks for
linking this Clay)
http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=b00_1377453339
Update:
The little shit HAD a facebook page where he was holding a LOADED gun
in a picture. The facebook page has since been taken down and deleted.
His mother's name is: Ranika Wills, and she is the mother of the
little girls too. According to his mother, her precious little shits
did nothing wrong and that "little girls fight". She told a caller that
he should have called George Zimmerman instead of her...uh, what?? She
is more upset that her son was threatened over the internet. No one
knows who the white little girl is. Also, the reason they were beating
the little girl? She was supposedly "spying" on them... Minneapolis,
Minnesota btw folks.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GoJ3CMQVsXY
That's an anon call to the mother. Even in the anon call, the mother is basically acting like this no big deal. "Kids fight" and "I blame the internet". I blame HER and her BAD parenting.
Here is her contact details:
Ranika Wills - Ray Wright mother
(763) 789-4140
206 42nd Ave Ne,
Minneapolis, Minnesota
The fathers speak out:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MajTdI_qvBw
Obviously, Ranika Wills, is not on the same page as her husband/baby daddy. The father might not raise his children to be racist, or bullies, but obviously the 12 year old is BOTH and his MOTHER is not helping either. I also doubt that the mother is willing to punish her kid, she sees nothing wrong with it.
I highly doubt the MOTHER is on board with her son being punished. He
obviously learned this type of behavior from somewhere. If not the
father, then definitely from Ranika Wills. Her attitude about the entire
incident just shows she IS racist, and doesn't CARE about what
happened. I feel bad for the little girl, and I'm happy a resolution
came about...but I am unhappy that the mother and the 12 yr old really
saw no problem with how he was acting! The father has a good head, but
NOT the mother.
Thursday, August 29, 2013
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Costume SuperCenter Sucks!
I recently ordered a costume from Costume SuperCenter (Mad Hatter, size M 7-8). The
hat has brown stains on it, and is falling apart at the seams (I can
tell the glue on the hat is coming off, and will reglue it later). The
bodice of the outfit is made from cheap plastic, and is WAY too
big...nowhere near what was stated in the size charts. I will need to
stitch this, or glue it. Even the back velcro closing
fasteners will need to be resewn on, as they are barely hanging on for
dear life. The bow on the front will need to be sewn on, as it is just
falling down and looks like a jumbled mess of green (nothing like a
bow).
I expect to have to tailor my children's costumes every year, that is why I order them so early. I do NOT expect to have to completely REMAKE the entire outfit.
I bought another costume from a rival costume supplier, and it only took 3 stitches to fix the sizing issues. With this company, I will be fixing this for at least a week AND trying to get the stains out of the hat. I could make a better costume myself, at home, for half the price and none of the hassle. (Next time I will do this, or go to a competitor.)
I am sure I could return this for a full refund, but it took 10 full business days to get to me as they sent it TO post my office (causing an additional FOUR day delay). If I were to return this now, at my own cost, I will be out even MORE money and I doubt I'd get the replacement (and fixed) back in time for Halloween. THIS is why I always order really early, and why they have lost a buyer.
PS. Last year I ordered a Southern Belle costume from them, it faired no better and I assumed it was a fluke. I ordered it in Aug, and received it one WEEK before Halloween. In less then 2 hours, the entire gown was falling apart at the seams. The cheap plastic undergown was completely ripped and is unusable next year. The metal inside the undergown, keeping the shape of the skirt, stabbed my daughter while trick or treating. I should have learned my lesson. This outfit took every spare moment of my time to attempt to fix before Halloween, as the shipping was super slow and the quality is CRAP.
Update: I was refunded $20.69, and then again $6.99, for a total of $27.68. I had to fight on the phone for the shipping refund. It took several calls and 15 days for it to be put into my account finally. It also was a huge pain having to explain over and over again what was wrong with the costume. They kept trying to convince me to just ship the costume back, at my own cost.
I expect to have to tailor my children's costumes every year, that is why I order them so early. I do NOT expect to have to completely REMAKE the entire outfit.
I bought another costume from a rival costume supplier, and it only took 3 stitches to fix the sizing issues. With this company, I will be fixing this for at least a week AND trying to get the stains out of the hat. I could make a better costume myself, at home, for half the price and none of the hassle. (Next time I will do this, or go to a competitor.)
I am sure I could return this for a full refund, but it took 10 full business days to get to me as they sent it TO post my office (causing an additional FOUR day delay). If I were to return this now, at my own cost, I will be out even MORE money and I doubt I'd get the replacement (and fixed) back in time for Halloween. THIS is why I always order really early, and why they have lost a buyer.
PS. Last year I ordered a Southern Belle costume from them, it faired no better and I assumed it was a fluke. I ordered it in Aug, and received it one WEEK before Halloween. In less then 2 hours, the entire gown was falling apart at the seams. The cheap plastic undergown was completely ripped and is unusable next year. The metal inside the undergown, keeping the shape of the skirt, stabbed my daughter while trick or treating. I should have learned my lesson. This outfit took every spare moment of my time to attempt to fix before Halloween, as the shipping was super slow and the quality is CRAP.
Update: I was refunded $20.69, and then again $6.99, for a total of $27.68. I had to fight on the phone for the shipping refund. It took several calls and 15 days for it to be put into my account finally. It also was a huge pain having to explain over and over again what was wrong with the costume. They kept trying to convince me to just ship the costume back, at my own cost.
Tuesday, August 27, 2013
Accosted By Charities and Being Treated Like A Child
The other day I ran out of eggs to make my daughter some cupcakes for her birthday. She requested these cupcakes specifically, and stupidly, I forgot to check and see if I had eggs. So, making an afternoon run to the grocery store was required.
Mind you, I usually only go to the store during the early morning weekdays or late as fuck on weeknights. I hate the traffic and I REALLY hate the patrons. Don't get me started on the many stories I have of other parents little snots or other people acting like complete assholes. Plus, it was going to take me an HOUR just to get a thing of fucking eggs. I was not happy, but I got the leave the kids at home with Dad. (Phew)
I know I look young, but I'm actually over 30 years ago. Without my kids in tow (and most of the time even with them), I get comments the most random obnoxious comments from people. Let's see, when I was 25 yrs old, and my daughter was 1 yr old...I was being attacked at stores for being a TEEN mother. Huh? Even after correcting them and sometimes (just to be an ass) showing my license....the comments never stopped from these people until I was WAY out of their line of sight.
I get pulled over for a random traffic stop, every month, for the past 3 years here. I almost always get asked if my ID is fake, and should I really be driving at such a young age? Eh? Want to see my Military ID? Here you go. Want to see my license? Here you go. It's never enough for these types of ignorant people. I even carry my birth certificate with me, always. (I keep extras at home, just in case I lose any of my identification)
I smoke and drink. I get carded at EVERY restaurant and gas station. No matter what. My husband, is almost NEVER carded. God forbid, once I even left my ID in the car and I showed a waiter my Military ID instead...that was a shitstorm of managers, etc, telling me they do NOT accept a federal ID. My husband offered to get my ID out of the car for me, but by then they weren't having it. We were eventually informed that my husband can drink, but I cannot. Nice. We haven't been back to that restaurant since.
Aside from strangers, we live in a small-ish town. We've been here quite a while now (5 years). The same people that card me every time, are the same people EVERY time. I'm really not kidding. I know where most of the LIVE. Ugh.
Anyways...back to my story.
So, I park my massive kid carrying SUV and go to walk into the front of the grocery store. I do briefly notice that the boy scouts are looking for donations. They had some cheap table set up, two kids, and one adult. I'm not sure what they were selling, aside from asking people for money. From what I can tell, they were being quiet and mostly not bothering people...until they saw ME.
I must have a sign on me that says: "Harass this chick for donations!!" Instead of letting them just go on my merry little way, the adult tells the kid to stop me. I hear this, but ignore it...hoping they don't mean me. The kid stands directly in my path and starts harassing me to donate to the Boy Scouts. I'm not interested. I barely have enough money as it is, being on a military pay grade and all those massive bills, so I politely tell the little shit that it's not gonna happen.
Out of the corner of my eye, I see the adult do this shooing motion. I basically run to get around the kid and go inside. Thank god that's over with. Get my eggs, check out, and prepare myself to go back outside (I even called my husband and was speaking to him while I was leaving). At this point, I am hoping they don't remember me or just leave me alone. Not.so.much.
I guess they were waiting for me to come back out? I walk out the door and almost get tackled to the ground. Not only is it one kid, but both of them, AND the adult blocking my way now. They start telling me that I NEED to donate now, and if I don't I'm an evil person going to hell...or some shit like that. I look directly at the adult and say calmly: "I am on the phone. If I WAS interested in supporting your cause before, I am no longer interested. Let me pass." This does not work either.
For a good 5 minutes, I have all three of the shits trying to coerce me into donating. Their comments ranged from, "If you can't donate, then your parents will DEFINITELY donate." Um, what? My parents are pretty much almost dead, why would they care to give their even smaller amount of money to your cause? Why even bring my parents into this? (Yes, these 2 kids and adult thought I was like some 16 yr old...)
Finally, when I see a glimmer of an exit...I take it and run. While I'm going across the street, I hear the adult say: "If she can afford a a cellphone, she can afford to donate!" Of course, this makes all other people walking past stare at the evil woman who refused to donate to the Boy Scouts. Nice.
My second donation attempt story:
I was hanging up a ton of Halloween decorations in my house, about two weeks before Halloween. The particular ones that I was doing that day, were actually in my front bay windows. I was pretty much teetering on the edge of my couch, window open, trying to hang them up in the windows. Not a great position for me, especially in PJs.
So, I'm basically hanging out my window and trying to hang up random Halloween decorations into the window. I was one inch from falling, so I'm trying to hurry for my own safety, and I see this woman out of the corner of my eye being followed by a brood of 6 kidlets. She was walking up my driveway with her entire brood, waving at me through the window. (Creepy)
I do wind up falling off the couch when I see this bitch coming up my walkway with her brood. I actually hit my shin really badly on the metal part of my couch, so I was limping. I open the door slowly (don't want the damn dog to get free), and she proceeds to start introducing herself to me. I've been living here 5 years now, why are you just NOW introducing yourself to me?
After she introduces her entire brood to me, she tells me the REAL reason she is annoying the shit out of me. Well, didn't you know? She could see me setting things up for Halloween, and just KNEW it was the best time to catch me...because I am elusive. Her words, not mine.
She wants me to donate to her family, because her middle child has child diabetes. This kid is 100% healthy, and the type of diabetes he has is non-serious, and non-life threatening. Type 1, meaning he will need to take insulin the rest of his life...but he's not DYING like she tried to tell me.
Yes, so she brought her kids with her to try to guilt me into donating for her well-to-do family. Yes, she has more money then we do. She admitted to getting over $100,000 last year for her family because of her child's "condition". /sigh.
I told her that I'd have to ask my husband, and get back to her. Which ensued the conversation about how we can just put a check in her mailbox. Okay...right... I totally copped out and blamed the husband later, but in reality...neither one of us gave a SHIT about this woman's problems. Especially since she specfically didn't introduce herself to me UNTIL she wanted money from me. Fuck that.
Mind you, I usually only go to the store during the early morning weekdays or late as fuck on weeknights. I hate the traffic and I REALLY hate the patrons. Don't get me started on the many stories I have of other parents little snots or other people acting like complete assholes. Plus, it was going to take me an HOUR just to get a thing of fucking eggs. I was not happy, but I got the leave the kids at home with Dad. (Phew)
I know I look young, but I'm actually over 30 years ago. Without my kids in tow (and most of the time even with them), I get comments the most random obnoxious comments from people. Let's see, when I was 25 yrs old, and my daughter was 1 yr old...I was being attacked at stores for being a TEEN mother. Huh? Even after correcting them and sometimes (just to be an ass) showing my license....the comments never stopped from these people until I was WAY out of their line of sight.
I get pulled over for a random traffic stop, every month, for the past 3 years here. I almost always get asked if my ID is fake, and should I really be driving at such a young age? Eh? Want to see my Military ID? Here you go. Want to see my license? Here you go. It's never enough for these types of ignorant people. I even carry my birth certificate with me, always. (I keep extras at home, just in case I lose any of my identification)
I smoke and drink. I get carded at EVERY restaurant and gas station. No matter what. My husband, is almost NEVER carded. God forbid, once I even left my ID in the car and I showed a waiter my Military ID instead...that was a shitstorm of managers, etc, telling me they do NOT accept a federal ID. My husband offered to get my ID out of the car for me, but by then they weren't having it. We were eventually informed that my husband can drink, but I cannot. Nice. We haven't been back to that restaurant since.
Aside from strangers, we live in a small-ish town. We've been here quite a while now (5 years). The same people that card me every time, are the same people EVERY time. I'm really not kidding. I know where most of the LIVE. Ugh.
Anyways...back to my story.
So, I park my massive kid carrying SUV and go to walk into the front of the grocery store. I do briefly notice that the boy scouts are looking for donations. They had some cheap table set up, two kids, and one adult. I'm not sure what they were selling, aside from asking people for money. From what I can tell, they were being quiet and mostly not bothering people...until they saw ME.
I must have a sign on me that says: "Harass this chick for donations!!" Instead of letting them just go on my merry little way, the adult tells the kid to stop me. I hear this, but ignore it...hoping they don't mean me. The kid stands directly in my path and starts harassing me to donate to the Boy Scouts. I'm not interested. I barely have enough money as it is, being on a military pay grade and all those massive bills, so I politely tell the little shit that it's not gonna happen.
Out of the corner of my eye, I see the adult do this shooing motion. I basically run to get around the kid and go inside. Thank god that's over with. Get my eggs, check out, and prepare myself to go back outside (I even called my husband and was speaking to him while I was leaving). At this point, I am hoping they don't remember me or just leave me alone. Not.so.much.
I guess they were waiting for me to come back out? I walk out the door and almost get tackled to the ground. Not only is it one kid, but both of them, AND the adult blocking my way now. They start telling me that I NEED to donate now, and if I don't I'm an evil person going to hell...or some shit like that. I look directly at the adult and say calmly: "I am on the phone. If I WAS interested in supporting your cause before, I am no longer interested. Let me pass." This does not work either.
For a good 5 minutes, I have all three of the shits trying to coerce me into donating. Their comments ranged from, "If you can't donate, then your parents will DEFINITELY donate." Um, what? My parents are pretty much almost dead, why would they care to give their even smaller amount of money to your cause? Why even bring my parents into this? (Yes, these 2 kids and adult thought I was like some 16 yr old...)
Finally, when I see a glimmer of an exit...I take it and run. While I'm going across the street, I hear the adult say: "If she can afford a a cellphone, she can afford to donate!" Of course, this makes all other people walking past stare at the evil woman who refused to donate to the Boy Scouts. Nice.
My second donation attempt story:
I was hanging up a ton of Halloween decorations in my house, about two weeks before Halloween. The particular ones that I was doing that day, were actually in my front bay windows. I was pretty much teetering on the edge of my couch, window open, trying to hang them up in the windows. Not a great position for me, especially in PJs.
So, I'm basically hanging out my window and trying to hang up random Halloween decorations into the window. I was one inch from falling, so I'm trying to hurry for my own safety, and I see this woman out of the corner of my eye being followed by a brood of 6 kidlets. She was walking up my driveway with her entire brood, waving at me through the window. (Creepy)
I do wind up falling off the couch when I see this bitch coming up my walkway with her brood. I actually hit my shin really badly on the metal part of my couch, so I was limping. I open the door slowly (don't want the damn dog to get free), and she proceeds to start introducing herself to me. I've been living here 5 years now, why are you just NOW introducing yourself to me?
After she introduces her entire brood to me, she tells me the REAL reason she is annoying the shit out of me. Well, didn't you know? She could see me setting things up for Halloween, and just KNEW it was the best time to catch me...because I am elusive. Her words, not mine.
She wants me to donate to her family, because her middle child has child diabetes. This kid is 100% healthy, and the type of diabetes he has is non-serious, and non-life threatening. Type 1, meaning he will need to take insulin the rest of his life...but he's not DYING like she tried to tell me.
Yes, so she brought her kids with her to try to guilt me into donating for her well-to-do family. Yes, she has more money then we do. She admitted to getting over $100,000 last year for her family because of her child's "condition". /sigh.
I told her that I'd have to ask my husband, and get back to her. Which ensued the conversation about how we can just put a check in her mailbox. Okay...right... I totally copped out and blamed the husband later, but in reality...neither one of us gave a SHIT about this woman's problems. Especially since she specfically didn't introduce herself to me UNTIL she wanted money from me. Fuck that.
Saturday, August 24, 2013
The Newest Ebay Buyer Scam!
I've been selling on ebay for 3 years now. Nothing serious, I'm just a casual poster. I decided that since I'm pregnant to start selling again (boredom), after a 6 month hiatus. I just didn't want to sell what I had originally sold, as I was being targetted by a LOT of scammers. (I officially post WAY more things on ealtbay.com, and while it doesn't sell so fast ... it's less fees and 150% better then ebay itself. I can also leave negative feedback on buyers, and the not selling as fast is a bonus for a casual poster like me.)
Most of the original scammers (3 in less then a month, and only selling a total of 10 auctions) claimed that item arrived broken and they immediately wanted a full refund. According to my own common sense, and ebay's policy, I always responded with "If it is broken, please take a picture and send it to me over ebay OR mail it back to me (you pay for return shipping)". If they opened a case, ebay would say the same thing to them...so I just reiterate what ebay would say, pretty much.
Of course, as soon as I said this, no one could verify that the items were actually broken. I decided that since the items were fairly cheap to mail, etc, I would just refund the money even if they couldn't verify. I didn't refund one person (she was a massive bitch and tried to tell me she'd leave bad feedback if I didn't immediately refund her...ebay also informed me not to refund her money as this was extortion) out of the three. I did receive 2 negative feedbacks (one from bitch face), and one neutral. Ebay never did remove those feedbacks, even if I was told they would. "Buyers opinion" and all that jazz. (Part of the reason why I relocated.) Plus side: I did get to respond to my negative feedbacks, and let people know that their claim of items being broken was never proven.
Whatever, I was done selling. I had never received a negative feedback the 2 years prior to that, as I really am a good seller and wouldn't want to waste my money either. I felt like an eye for an eye was appropriate, and if I spent money on something - it damn well better be working. I took a break because of these three situations, 6 months. (These three still exist on ebay, and one of which is listed on the badbuyerlist now - the bitch)
I posted about 50 items of a bunch of crap I had around my house, and sold about 15 of them in less then a week. All the while, I was trying to come up with this new idea of mine. I did a lot of research, crunching numbers, and googling. I know, very businesslike of me. So, while I'm coming up with this..I'm getting positive feedback left and right about my packaging and how they love their shit. Yay me! I'm also bringing checks to the bank.
Anyways, so this time I decided in my infinite wisdom to sell a dozen cookies. Not only was I going to sell cookies, and test it out with a single auction post, but I was going to make the kind I am allergic to the ingredients (stupid of me, I know). I made sure to list that I have a food handler's license, which I do, and that I would be making them the day of shipment with non-latex gloves (also allergic to latex - fuck my life!). I even made sure to list what was IN the cookies, so no one could claim I killed them later.
To my surprise, and horror, someone actually bought out my cookies without waiting for the auction to end! This means it was even more costly for them! Wow! I was in shell shock. Knowing this could possibly be too go to be true, I waited for the scam to hit me.
It took two days for the person to pay, but they finally did pay (after three invoices and a warning that I'd open an unpaid item case). All the while, I'm going "he's not gonna pay".. I made the cookies and instead of just making a dozen, I made three batches combined. I kept about two batches for myself, and stuck them on the counter for the kids to munch on, and sent the buyer NOT twelve as stated in the auction...but SIXTEEN cookies. This was also another precaution for me. If any of them were demolished, I wanted to make sure that there were extras in there. Plus, I was being nice.
I shipped them out the day of him paying (yes this was a GUY), and they arrive at the dude's house in less then 2 days. I shipped them priority first class small box mail. I wrapped each cookie individually to seal their freshness, and even added some bubble wrap just for kicks. (Well, he did buy out the auction after all, I could afford to add some more bubble wrap)
I then sent him an automated message to please let me know if there were any ISSUES (see this word? ISSUES) with his order, as I would like to clear them up immediately. I didn't want to have any neg feedback again, as those two previous ones had dropped my feedback %... /sigh I have since decided to NEVER send out this email ever again. It comes to bite me in the ass later. I mean really, I was just trying to be fucking nice...but a scammer will jump on that right away! NEVER try to contact people with this option, as they will try to abuse the fuck out of the system!!!
Okay, approximately 36 hours AFTER this fatass receives his package (10am in the morning he got it, and I shipped it at noon..so really like 32 hours)...he sends me the following email(UID: rick-roger):
"They were broken, crumbs or just hard..It was VERY hard.. It cost me over $8.00 for a SMALL dozen..I expected much better...i want refund"
It cost him that much because he bought out the only auction I had of them, and the shipping alone cost me easily $5.80 not counting my supreme packing I did (which is exactly how much he was charged). I decided to check out my own stash of cookies on the counter, which are still there, and not only are they NOT hard...they are STILL chewy. They came from the same batch and have been sitting in the AIR, not sealed like his were...for the same amount of time.
Naturally, this pissed me the fuck off. My husband was even more pissed, because it was his recipe (which I usually don't use). He also received MORE then a dozen, and no they are not "small". I took a picture of a batch we made the night before with a damn tape measurer against one of them. So, try again honey. Cookies don't get hard/stale within 4 days, especially when they are wrapped like Fort Knox. (This recipe actually has them go stale/hard about a 10 days or more. We know from experience.)
But this is ebay right? Must remain professional at all times. This was my official businesslike response to him (you can tell, I'm a little baffled and angry...this was before I started trolling the fuck out of him):
"I sent you 16 not a dozen, and made sure they were packed in a box with air tight seals on the actual cookies. Were all of them really broken and hard? Wow, they were made the day I mailed them and it only took 2 total days in the mail to get there. I expected them to at least survive better in shipping, especially since it was priority mailing. You've had them for a day and a half, is it possible that you have a picture of it that you can send me over ebay? Or return them to me for a full refund (you'd have to pay for shipping)?"
This is somewhat my usual response to these types of situations. When he responded, I wasn't going to let it go either. I was NOT offering a refund on FOOD (for fuck's sake, I know you ate it), even if Ebay would MAKE me. But, I wanted to call his bluff first. I also started coming up with a diabolical plan, that I'd probably only use in one of my MMORPGs to fuck with someone.
I start investigating the guy. No idea why I didn't before. He only has 7 positive feedback, all for the same type of item (not food), and never left ANY other feedback for sellers. Interesting. So, they leave him feedback but he leaves none in return? Huh. I also look at my paypal account, and find out that on ebay it's a dude...but on paypal, it's a chick. Even more interesting. Same address and same last name, but it looks like he bought them for his family or something. (You can definitely tell from his emails it's a dude)
Okay, so the more I'm investigating, the more I start ripping apart his email. To quote:
"They were broken, crumbs or just hard..It was VERY hard" Hm...what is this pick your defect day? I know I sent multiple items, but that is a LOT of excuses for one thing. Usually, if something is wrong I get a response like: "It was broken"...not it was broken, and the sky was falling that day, and it was hard, but not just hard...very hard! Grr... (My own cookies mind you are still not even close to being hard and they are not "crumbly")
I get the typical response: "i want refund" again, and so starts my trolling. I also offered to provide him with a video tape of me packing the cookies, and showing how some of my own cookies came from the same batch via a video. (Total bluff, I didn't make a video of me separating the cookies or packing them) But, I was just sooo baffled!!!!
It really didn't take much convincing or pretend ignorance on my part...which shows this guy isn't a fucking pro at this. He keeps repeating that he didn't eat ANY of the cookies, as they were pretty much inedible and I shipped them HORRIBLY!! (My ass...)
I asked him if the cookie recipe came out okay, that maybe it was the recipe I used...but I was unsure as to why my own cookies from the SAME batch, were not hard yet and still sitting on my counter. After this latest "poor me, my recipe sucks" troll - he does ADMIT to eating my cookies! My cookies were "full of flavor"!! Wow asshole, so apparently, at some of them arrived in good enough condition for you to shovel down your throat, huh? (Even Ebay shouldn't refund this guy when he obviously ATE the item in question, MAYBE a partial refund...but that's a stretch)
He still wants a refund though....until...I tell him that I am more then happy to open a case to ebay with him, and let them help us resolve the matter professionally. "As I couldn't just up and nilly willy give him a refund without their say so (as it is their site, and I'd rather not get into trouble by the ebay gods...)...." LOL This is 100% NOT true. I could have refunded him at any time on either ebay or paypal.
I guess this guy just didn't want ebay involved, because this is the response I get:
"im sorry..i don't expect a refund and I don't know how to do the picture thing. You ask what THE CONDITION of the cookies so that is why made the statement...They were really crumbly and quite a lot of the were broken..May I suggest you cushion the blow..The flavor o the cookies are very good. please package them differently."
I never asked for the condition of the cookies, I told him to let me know if there were ISSUES with the package. I didn't specify which type of issues. But, I liked how as soon as I asked for proof and offered up that I had proof of my own (I didn't really)...and decided to involve ebay with all of my proof for them to sort out, he immediately backed down. He also admits, once again, that my cookies tasted very good. (I think he was trying assuage my fears of being a terrible chef still.)
If my cookies are hard, and falling apart...then how or rather why the fuck did you eat them? For that matter, who eats 16 cookies in that short of time? My husband is a firm believer that they all got there okay, if not most of them okay (I mean, we sent extras just in case) and he wanted me to send another batch or to have his cookies and eat them for free. Wasn't going to happen.
I had a lot of fun with this one, though. He was a regular idiot. At the end, even after this email, he kept trying to assure me that my cookies didn't suck. So instead of just getting the guy away from a refund and negative feedback, I also made him assure me and apologize! LOL I struck a whole new level of awesome today.
From what I have seen of this type of particular scammer - they never know how to do the picture thing, and they NEVER want to send the item back... Most of my items are small and don't cost a lot, so they immediately expect a refund..and no they 99% of the time will NOT even send the item back because they "threw it out" or "lost it". Yup, not kidding. Those three feedbacks I got? Same thing with them. This guy makes #4.
They think just because it's a small item that you won't notice them scamming you, but I did. I watch that shit like a hawk. I may not like being social, and usually rub people the wrong way, but I can tell when someone is lying through their fucking teeth. I also know how to manipulate the fuck out of their lies to my favor AND play the "poor pitiful me" card on a scammer like this.
So if you are selling smaller items that don't sell for a lot of money, and someone immediately claims the item is broken or leaves feedback stating it. If they want you to refund their money WITHOUT proof. They assume because it costs so little, that you won't put up a fight and will just eat the cost. I learned this the hard way. I will NEVER refund without PROOF again. I will fight for that $.01, and hopefully in the future...eventually teach them a lesson.
Update: I did receive negative feedback from this tool. "Sorry, the cookies were crumbled and broken. But the pieces had good flavor" My response was: "Buyer ATE cookies, cdn't refund w/no proof. Extra were sent (16 total). SCAM" He admitted to eating the cookies, and that the problem (if it existed) wasn't even on my end...yet he left negative feedback. Real mature. Let's leave negative feedback because we won't be getting a refund.
I called ebay and since I didn't claim in my post that "cookies might be broken", I couldn't remove the feedback...regardless of common sense. If they are good enough to eat, then why leave the feedback? If the feedback was left because they can't get a refund, then that's revenge feedback and illegal...and if they refuse to change their feedback unless a refund, that's extortion. Not hard to figure this out.
I've once again removed all my items off of ebay again. I'm swapping to ealtbay for good now.
Update #2: Actually, I DID write in my post that some of the cookies could be broken. Ebay was essentially running me around with bullshit. No surprise there. I was also told by Ebay to request a feedback removal/edit, so I did. Boy, that was a bad idea.
Not only did the buyer NOT want to change what they wrote. But, I got the following two NASTY responses:
"I ate pieces of cookies. They arrived crumbled or broken. Not suitable for guests. No I donot want more cookies or a refund. I learned not to buy cookies on line the hard way."
"I'm sorry but you packaged them with no cushioning.. and that was your responsibility.. Yes I ate broken cookies..only three whole ones. The box was dented. Sorry, my review stands. You'll have to learn from your mistakes. And no I'm not asking for any refund."
So this fucker wants to teach me a random lesson? Gee, thanks. I didn't know my Dad was buying shit off ebay from me. I didn't actually MAKE any mistakes. I just learned, once again, that Ebay is ALL about the buyers. Also, no surprise there.
This was my lengthy response, and I tried to keep it as professional as possible:
If the product was of enough quality to eat (but not good enough to leave a positive or neutral feedback) the product should not have been 'consumed'. Which you claim to have done despite your complaints. The box being dented is the fault of the shipping company, not myself. It was not dented when i sent it, and I have photographic proof of that, which I will kindly display as proof that the box was not damaged before being sent out.
If you are going to be making claims that things are broken/crumbling/hard, then you need to prove it. If you can not prove it, then you don't get a refund (Ebay's policy as well as my own.), replacement NOR my sympathy. You wouldn't walk into Walmart without the defective item and 1) demand a refund or 2) start complaining about the entire business franchise over one bad shipment. The shipment being damaged upon delivery is not my fault, but the fault of the shipping company which delivered it to you.
You were offered more of the purchased product to compensate for the damaged cookies. You declined. I offered to refund your purchase, and you could not provide proof that the contents of the package were damaged. I therefor rescind my offer to provide you a refund based on your either unwillingness or inability to provide proof of a defective product.
Since you cannot prove your "claims" to either my or Ebay's satisfactory, no Refund will be given. Your overall behavior has been deplorable throughout this entire business venture since your package arrived. In no way, shape or form have you been willing to cooperate with me to ensure a means of reaching a satisfactory agreement for your claims of a defective product, which was still good enough to consume. Your own words said 'They arrived crumbled or broken. Not suitable for guest.' And yet you still claim to have consumed them, despite all your complaints about them.
Next time you want to claim something is broken, defective or otherwise unpresentable, please provide proof before consuming the product. My response to your feedback stands, as it is MY opinion of this transaction. You need to learn from YOUR mistakes. If a product is defective, as you claim, then one or several options need to be taken to back up your claim.
1. Photographic evidence be made immediately upon discovering a product that is unsatisfactory in any way to prove that it is either broken, defective, or unfit for the use it was intended for.
2. Returning the defective product back to the sender (Do not consume the product if you are unsatisfied with it.)
3. Provide pictures with your complaint so that you can either get more of the same product or get a refund.
It is my hope you will review this response accordingly and provide a more constructive feedback to future sellers, as well as possible proof of your unsatisfactory claim. If you provide neither, I will assume that this was an attempted effort on your part to scam me either out of more services or to get a refund while keeping the already delivered product for free.
To sum up my experience: This buyer wasn't happy the minute that package was in the mail. They didn't want a refund, and they didn't want a replacement sent out. This was a no win situation, and I was very nice during the whole transaction. My feedback score is now 72.7%. Go me. I'm just happy that it's over with, and I got some kicks in. The guy admitted to eating the cookies within 10 hours of receiving them, he ate 16 cookies in less then 10 hours...by himself. I was really tempted to call him a fat fuck. I kept it professional as possible.
By the by, when you keep saying you're sorry to a seller and then act like an asshole...it just makes them want to rip your nuts off.
Update #3:
This woman has no life and feels the need to try to "shame" me. Her lectures fall on deaf ears, as she is showing her true colors.
Three messages in less then an hour from her:
"I'm sorry but you packaged them with no cushioning.. and that was your responsibility.. Yes I ate broken cookies..only three whole ones. The box was dented. Sorry, my review stands. You'll have to learn from your mistakes. And no I'm not asking for any refund."
"You are mistaken, I consumed only approx. one cookie..You assumed I ate all of them..Shame on you..I WILL send the remaining ones back to you...Well packaged so you can see for yourself. I purchased many things from ebay but I never have dealt with someone so bitter and angery. And no , it's NOT the carriers fault. It's YOUR fault for not doing a better job in packaging."
"Shame on you, you know you have a packaging problem and you lace into me...I just read your feedback from some of you customers..Shame,, Shame"
This was my response...and as always I tried to keep it professional:
"As previously stated, you are more then welcome to return them, but I will not issue a refund when the item has been consumed. You have already claimed to have eaten 3 or more cookies, and your story is constantly changing. Without ANY proof, and even a portion eaten, there is no basis for a refund or even to be continuing a conversation with you.
If you have a problem with the condition the package arrived, contact the USPS. They will be more then happy to find the driver that delivered them to you.
Until you provide proof, without any cookies being eaten AT ALL, you will not receive a refund NOR another response from me. According to Ebay's standards, you are not eligible for even a partial refund at this stage.
Since you have stated numerous times you want neither a refund or replacement, this conversation is over. You are more then welcome to scour Ebay's website for their policies (as I have done), but I will not continue to repeat myself.
If you dislike the way I packaged my goods, that is completely your opinion. You did NOT pay for additional packaging. If you wanted additional packaging, you should have messaged me prior to paying for the item. Since you did NOT pay for additional secure packaging, they were shipped for the exact price of postage.
You have received 16 cookies, some broken, and have eaten a portion (if not all) of them. In my ad, it says that some cookies may get broken in transit. You were prewarned that some may break, and that is why I sent you extra. You are welcome.
I have blocked you from future sales, just so you won't have this issue with me again. I will not be changing my policies nor can I change Ebay's policies. If you dislike Ebay's policies, feel free to contact an Ombudsman.
Prior to your complaint, I had two issues with packaging out of over 40 total transactions. That is less then 12% complaints of a packaging issue. One is from 6 months ago, and one is from over a year ago (which will go away soon). Those two prior complaints were also unfounded, with ZERO proof (as is the case with YOU). They were also for completely different items, not food. They also did NOT consume the product, so I nicely (and not needed) refunded them 100%. I will not refund you, as your attitude is unprofessional and you have consumed the product (with ZERO proof).
Bringing up my feedback is also a good way for Ebay to ban your account for attempted extortion. Due to this, I have decided to cease all contact with you. Your messages will now be deleted immediately upon being sent. I have blocked you from future contact. This will be the last message you receive from me.
To reiterate: Until you can provide proof that the items were damaged upon arrival, without ANY consumption, there will be no refund nor a replacement. Which, you yourself have stated you want neither. So, to stop this "debate" on your part, I have blocked you completely.
Have a blessed day, and thanks for shopping!
PS. I have also reported your messages for harassment. Your attempts to shame and/or enlighten me, are completely unprofessional. Ebay is not to be used to insult, degrade, or shame. Ebay is a "yard sale" type of website. It is not to be used to attempt to install your version of morals or ethics. I have been nothing but professional in my responses to you, and even listed Ebay's policies for your future benefit. If you do not like Ebay's policies, then as previously stated, contact an Ombudsman or your local congressman."
She has a problem with my packaging, when I individually sealed each of the 16 cookies and wrapped them in bubble wrap to avoid breaking. I sent her 4 extra, and she claimed the box was dented. You can tell her story has changed a lot. From eating crumbles and broken pieces, to eating 3 cookies, and now to eating only 1. She got mad the box was dented, and when I pointed out that it was not my fault if the box is dented...she is now attacking MY packaging. She's lucky she even got bubblewrap.
Since I have told her I have blocked her (and I did, it's just not fucking working), I will respond to all other messages with "This message could not be delivered". At least, until she gets the hint. She'll send more, and I'll keep posting her little fit of rage...but I won't respond. She needs to get a job and stop trying to be the moral police...when she has lied multiple times to me.
This was the only response I have received from her since:
"Miss, I was a Ombudsman for the state of Pa..an retired from it."
It is obvious this person is NOT an Ombudsman. They are either elected or hand-selected. If this person can't even type appropriately, I doubt they are smart enough or even intelligent enough to be one. My Ebay name also says MRS. on it...not Miss. So, just shows how little she knew about her target. She couldn't even remember my address.
After this transaction, I sold two more and got perfect ratings. My feedback score is at a wonderful 75%. LOL
Thursday, August 22, 2013
I hate other parents and their kids...
First, I want to let you all know that yes...I am a mom. I have two
kidlets, and one more on the way (5 months pregnant). My oldest is 7,
and my youngest is 5. I am probably breaking some form of TOS just by
posting on here... I will NOT say that my children are perfect, but I am
a strong believer in punishments, removing them from
stores/restaurants/etc, please/thank you, and the bubble. My kids know
ALL about the bubble. I don't let them within 5 feet of a stranger, and
no...they will not talk to you, unless you talk to them first and they
ask for permission. (I warn them about pedophiles, even if you're not
one...it gets them to leave you the hell alone)
Shit, my oldest's favorite show is the Walking Dead...and my youngest loves to make fun of the bratty kids we see in public. You can easily tell within 5 seconds of meeting us, that technically we're not "normal"...especially here. Here, my kids are supposed to act like little snots and I'm supposed to be some sort of doting mother. Nope. Not gonna happen. Do something wrong, act like a brat, even I won't tolerate it.
I live in UTAH. Yup, my husband is military and we were stationed in the canyon while he finished his Master's in Math. It has been a living hell ever since we got here. I never really noticed a lot of the problems before we lived here...and we've been here 4 years (trying to sell this damn house!). This is the capital of billions of children.
Okay, I have been having a lot of issues with other "moos", "toadlers", and "famblies"...so I googled the crap out of the problems I was having, and decided to make my own post about some of the insane things I have come across. I did eventually find a website that was for people without children...which is where a lot of these terms come from. However, I HAVE children, and would never be accepted there.
I have been run over by strollers with 10 yr olds in them and gotten the death look plus the attitude. I have dealt with the entitled attitude from parents, to the extent that I absolutely refuse to have ANY contact with the parents here. I have dealt with the little snots at restaurants (all the while MY kids are either at home, or acting like angels...because god forbid we actually discipline our children here!). These people don't believe in discipline and have taken the "positive reinforcement" parenting style to a whole new level.
Hell...when we bought our house did you know the parents in the neighborhood wanted to turn my backyard into a playground? They even petitioned the CITY to OWN MY LAND! OMFG! It took a year to clear up, but it is obviously our land. Duh. But these little special snowflakes decided that since we didn't own a fence (neither did the previous owners...?), that our land suddenly became their children's play property. I had to call the cops numerous times for their kids sneaking onto my property to swim in our pool, without permission. Yes, we did get a fence eventually...thank god.
Let's see...there is the constant breastfeeding in public to...preteens. This is also considered normal, and I personally find it really gross. I always asked to be moved away from the offender in restaurants, because once I actually did puke on the woman. Oopsies.
Uh...there's been the children in grocery stores, being allowed to open food and spread a massive mess behind the buggy. Ew. I even saw the same child/moo, hand a soggy poopy diaper to the check-out woman to throw out. Double ew.
I've seen parents either completely ignore their kids, or they beat their children in public. Went to Ross the other day and a mother was beating her kid with a sandal. NO ONE said anything to this chick until I stepped in. Insanity. I've also been yelled at for not holding the door for a mother, stroller, and 12 brattlings... I've been yelled at for not talking to their children in lines at stores...it's not my job to entertain your little shit.
I even worked for McDonald's here for a brief stint (I have no idea what I was thinking...I have a Masters in Criminal Law...), and watching multiple parents let their kids have temper tantrums over the toys in the happy meal. I kid you not, they thought their little shit was adorable with it's high pitched whining. I'd never let my kids get away with that crap.
We even have dealt with them purposely breaking our solar lights, and re-arranging our Xmas decorations...to the tune of $1,000 in one year. When the parents are confronted about their little brats, they are in denial.. "kids will be kids"...MY ASS! My kids don't destroy YOUR shit. WTF. My favorite response was: "Well, what do you expect me to do about it?" Uh...really?
I've also had to deal with the back to school night recently, where I got stepped on by at least 15 overweight/obese moos...with no apology, and a "Move next time" from a few. Yup. I know I look like I'm fucking 18, but shit bitch...if you step on someone, apologize and don't be an ass just because I don't look like I ate the entire KFC! Don't get me started on the obese moos, those piss me off more then the whore moos do. (Some whore moos like to show up to pick up their kids from school wearing clothes fit for a 10 yr old. What's that quote? "If your vagina lips are longer then your shorts, then you need new shorts" or something.)
I have dealt with the "pay atttention to me!!!! I'm 6 WEEKS pregnant, love me and my brat!", or the "she's only a day old, isn't she cute??" (why is she outside the house, attention needy much?). I've had the snippy comments from parents about how *I* (a stranger) didn't watch their kid playing in the street. Didn't you know? It's completely common for these breeders to send their kids out to play, to annoy the shit out of EVERYONE in their vicinity...instead of I don't know...WATCHING them. We have had several child abductions in the past month, which is rare for here surprisingly, and everyone is always SO surprised...but I NEVER am. They don't raise or watch their kids!
So, yes, all of this DOES happen and people need to learn how to CHANGE how they raise their kids.
Shit, my oldest's favorite show is the Walking Dead...and my youngest loves to make fun of the bratty kids we see in public. You can easily tell within 5 seconds of meeting us, that technically we're not "normal"...especially here. Here, my kids are supposed to act like little snots and I'm supposed to be some sort of doting mother. Nope. Not gonna happen. Do something wrong, act like a brat, even I won't tolerate it.
I live in UTAH. Yup, my husband is military and we were stationed in the canyon while he finished his Master's in Math. It has been a living hell ever since we got here. I never really noticed a lot of the problems before we lived here...and we've been here 4 years (trying to sell this damn house!). This is the capital of billions of children.
Okay, I have been having a lot of issues with other "moos", "toadlers", and "famblies"...so I googled the crap out of the problems I was having, and decided to make my own post about some of the insane things I have come across. I did eventually find a website that was for people without children...which is where a lot of these terms come from. However, I HAVE children, and would never be accepted there.
I have been run over by strollers with 10 yr olds in them and gotten the death look plus the attitude. I have dealt with the entitled attitude from parents, to the extent that I absolutely refuse to have ANY contact with the parents here. I have dealt with the little snots at restaurants (all the while MY kids are either at home, or acting like angels...because god forbid we actually discipline our children here!). These people don't believe in discipline and have taken the "positive reinforcement" parenting style to a whole new level.
Hell...when we bought our house did you know the parents in the neighborhood wanted to turn my backyard into a playground? They even petitioned the CITY to OWN MY LAND! OMFG! It took a year to clear up, but it is obviously our land. Duh. But these little special snowflakes decided that since we didn't own a fence (neither did the previous owners...?), that our land suddenly became their children's play property. I had to call the cops numerous times for their kids sneaking onto my property to swim in our pool, without permission. Yes, we did get a fence eventually...thank god.
Let's see...there is the constant breastfeeding in public to...preteens. This is also considered normal, and I personally find it really gross. I always asked to be moved away from the offender in restaurants, because once I actually did puke on the woman. Oopsies.
Uh...there's been the children in grocery stores, being allowed to open food and spread a massive mess behind the buggy. Ew. I even saw the same child/moo, hand a soggy poopy diaper to the check-out woman to throw out. Double ew.
I've seen parents either completely ignore their kids, or they beat their children in public. Went to Ross the other day and a mother was beating her kid with a sandal. NO ONE said anything to this chick until I stepped in. Insanity. I've also been yelled at for not holding the door for a mother, stroller, and 12 brattlings... I've been yelled at for not talking to their children in lines at stores...it's not my job to entertain your little shit.
I even worked for McDonald's here for a brief stint (I have no idea what I was thinking...I have a Masters in Criminal Law...), and watching multiple parents let their kids have temper tantrums over the toys in the happy meal. I kid you not, they thought their little shit was adorable with it's high pitched whining. I'd never let my kids get away with that crap.
We even have dealt with them purposely breaking our solar lights, and re-arranging our Xmas decorations...to the tune of $1,000 in one year. When the parents are confronted about their little brats, they are in denial.. "kids will be kids"...MY ASS! My kids don't destroy YOUR shit. WTF. My favorite response was: "Well, what do you expect me to do about it?" Uh...really?
I've also had to deal with the back to school night recently, where I got stepped on by at least 15 overweight/obese moos...with no apology, and a "Move next time" from a few. Yup. I know I look like I'm fucking 18, but shit bitch...if you step on someone, apologize and don't be an ass just because I don't look like I ate the entire KFC! Don't get me started on the obese moos, those piss me off more then the whore moos do. (Some whore moos like to show up to pick up their kids from school wearing clothes fit for a 10 yr old. What's that quote? "If your vagina lips are longer then your shorts, then you need new shorts" or something.)
I have dealt with the "pay atttention to me!!!! I'm 6 WEEKS pregnant, love me and my brat!", or the "she's only a day old, isn't she cute??" (why is she outside the house, attention needy much?). I've had the snippy comments from parents about how *I* (a stranger) didn't watch their kid playing in the street. Didn't you know? It's completely common for these breeders to send their kids out to play, to annoy the shit out of EVERYONE in their vicinity...instead of I don't know...WATCHING them. We have had several child abductions in the past month, which is rare for here surprisingly, and everyone is always SO surprised...but I NEVER am. They don't raise or watch their kids!
So, yes, all of this DOES happen and people need to learn how to CHANGE how they raise their kids.
Stroller Wars
I've heard all about the stroller wars at Disney World, and many other places. This blog post is actually about the moms and dads out there that purposely hit people with strollers, just because the victim didn't move out of the way fast enough. I see it as a horrible version of NASCAR.
Today, while dropping off my kidlets for the first day of school, I was almost plowed over by a stroller-wielding mama. I had just dropped them off and was walking along the very edge of the sidewalk (I didn't want to be in anyone's way, god forbid). Out of the corner of my eye, I see this woman pushing this GIGANTIC stroller straight into my direction.
So, there I am walking straight along the edge of the sidewalk in a straight line...and she is coming straight at me, from the left in a straight line (think L-shaped impact zone). I speed up my pace, because we all know getting hit by a stroller hurts like a mother fucker. She speeds up her pace (WTF). I slow down, she slows down. Yes, I kid you not...she copied my every move. Not only that, but the place she was walking directly to, was into the street. No ramp, I guess she was going to jump the curb with that thing and head into the grass?
Maybe she didn't like the color of my shorts, she was on a mission to run into me. Mind you, there is no one else around at this time, and she EASILY had enough time to veer in a different direction. I had nowhere to go at this point, as I'm already humping the edge of the sidewalk, AND WHY should I get in the street just because she's being a bitch? Yes, there were lots of cars back and forth, and no I didn't want to get hit by a car....which would hurt even MORE. (It turns out later, she wasn't even going in my direction...once this happened, she went the complete opposite way of where I was going)
It was a matter of 2 minutes, before she attempted to collide into my side. I know she saw me, there was no one else on the sidewalk. I know strollers can be hard to maneuver, especially the bigger ones, but she had more then enough pre-warning to slightly MOVE from her course in order to avoid me. I mean, just because you have a stroller doesn't mean you chase people down OR that you have the right of way. You wait your turn, don't run into people, and when you do...you APOLOGIZE. Such a hard concept for some people.
Yes, she saw me. Yes, she glared at me when I dared to stop the stroller from hitting me. Really, it's called an umbrella stroller. Your kid isn't even in it. So, why bother to even take it out for the 15minutes it takes to drop off your kid at school? It was almost like she was trying to establish that she was #1 on the sidewalk, and I better move my ass out of the way OR ELSE.
So, when it came down to it. I put my hand out on her stroller and stopped her from plowing over my precious ankles. I got glared at, and my natural response was to start laughing at her. Really bitch? You're gonna glare at me, because you felt you had right of way...with a gigantic stroller...and this ALL could have been avoided if you just went around me?
Mind you, I have two children and another on the way. I WILL use a stroller if necessary. However, I ALWAYS try to avoid getting in people's way and whenever I come within inches of them...I apologize. If I hit them with the stroller, I feel terrible!
Yay for another entitled mom. Just because you have kids, and require the use of a stroller, doesn't give you permission to be a dick. Strollers aren't meant for ramming people with. They are meant for carting your precious cargo around. Be sensible. If you run into someone, or possibly don't see them, don't glare at them...apologize!!!! It's most likely your fault. (Granted, I've had some people purposely try to outrun and cut me off when I have a stroller...I'm talking about actually HITTING someone on PURPOSE)
Today, while dropping off my kidlets for the first day of school, I was almost plowed over by a stroller-wielding mama. I had just dropped them off and was walking along the very edge of the sidewalk (I didn't want to be in anyone's way, god forbid). Out of the corner of my eye, I see this woman pushing this GIGANTIC stroller straight into my direction.
So, there I am walking straight along the edge of the sidewalk in a straight line...and she is coming straight at me, from the left in a straight line (think L-shaped impact zone). I speed up my pace, because we all know getting hit by a stroller hurts like a mother fucker. She speeds up her pace (WTF). I slow down, she slows down. Yes, I kid you not...she copied my every move. Not only that, but the place she was walking directly to, was into the street. No ramp, I guess she was going to jump the curb with that thing and head into the grass?
Maybe she didn't like the color of my shorts, she was on a mission to run into me. Mind you, there is no one else around at this time, and she EASILY had enough time to veer in a different direction. I had nowhere to go at this point, as I'm already humping the edge of the sidewalk, AND WHY should I get in the street just because she's being a bitch? Yes, there were lots of cars back and forth, and no I didn't want to get hit by a car....which would hurt even MORE. (It turns out later, she wasn't even going in my direction...once this happened, she went the complete opposite way of where I was going)
It was a matter of 2 minutes, before she attempted to collide into my side. I know she saw me, there was no one else on the sidewalk. I know strollers can be hard to maneuver, especially the bigger ones, but she had more then enough pre-warning to slightly MOVE from her course in order to avoid me. I mean, just because you have a stroller doesn't mean you chase people down OR that you have the right of way. You wait your turn, don't run into people, and when you do...you APOLOGIZE. Such a hard concept for some people.
Yes, she saw me. Yes, she glared at me when I dared to stop the stroller from hitting me. Really, it's called an umbrella stroller. Your kid isn't even in it. So, why bother to even take it out for the 15minutes it takes to drop off your kid at school? It was almost like she was trying to establish that she was #1 on the sidewalk, and I better move my ass out of the way OR ELSE.
So, when it came down to it. I put my hand out on her stroller and stopped her from plowing over my precious ankles. I got glared at, and my natural response was to start laughing at her. Really bitch? You're gonna glare at me, because you felt you had right of way...with a gigantic stroller...and this ALL could have been avoided if you just went around me?
Mind you, I have two children and another on the way. I WILL use a stroller if necessary. However, I ALWAYS try to avoid getting in people's way and whenever I come within inches of them...I apologize. If I hit them with the stroller, I feel terrible!
Yay for another entitled mom. Just because you have kids, and require the use of a stroller, doesn't give you permission to be a dick. Strollers aren't meant for ramming people with. They are meant for carting your precious cargo around. Be sensible. If you run into someone, or possibly don't see them, don't glare at them...apologize!!!! It's most likely your fault. (Granted, I've had some people purposely try to outrun and cut me off when I have a stroller...I'm talking about actually HITTING someone on PURPOSE)
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
Bridger Elementary is AMAZING!!!!!
If you check out my previous posts, you can see the many issues that we had with Woodruff Elementary. Our issues involved my daughter being LOST for 2-3 hours, rampant bullying and victim blaming, poor teaching, inappropriate teaching topics discussed, teachers not teaching their students, verbal assault on myself/daughter, threats, cover-ups, and a slew of other issues.
My daughter has successfully managed to get through an ENTIRE school year at Bridger Elementary without any problems. The only problem any of us had with this new school was that field trip where the teacher was absent. When my daughter was being teased for her speech patterns, the teacher stopped it almost immediately. The principal even made sure that I was okay with how things were progressing with her. I am still very tempted to bake him cookies just for being understanding. He made that call out of the kindness of his heart, not because he was trying to cover anything up.
My daughter was never lost once at the new school. She did occassionally go to the front office when she couldn't see my car in the car line (this is something the old school taught her to do). Principal Guyman for two months was secluding her in his office, by himself, after school FOR NO REASON. I am still worried that he might of sexually abused her. However, the new school took her "habits" in stride and even CALLED me when there issues!!!! WOW! If she her lunch bag was missing (which actually happens a lot, because the carts get mixed up or kids take the wrong lunch bag home), the secretary would help us find it! WOW!
I received calls for her awards, updates on school fun stuff, and when she was sitting outside of the office instead of near our meeting spot. It is FANTASTIC! The old school did NOT do this, and you were lucky if you got a call when your daughter was punched in the face.
She was only bullied once, and it was stopped almost immediately. She received such high grades, AND her teacher knew what she was doing!! Even though her teacher missed a lot of the school year, you could tell her teacher was AMAZING at her job!!
My eldest was even given the "Leadership Award". She certainly is a little trooper. I cannot even begin to imagine what life would have been like if we had stayed at the previous school. We got to take as many pictures as we wanted, and we were all very proud of her.
Also, someone made an offhand comment about my blog when I was re-enrolling my eldest and youngest. One of the secretaries from one of the other schools has read it. She even teased and said if I "didn't like something, I'll probably just blog about it". Yup. I'll blog about it. It's best to have it all documented, then to ignore what was happening. This is something I learned from my attorney. Dates and occurrences are important to document.
Also, turns out Mrs. Shit was also telling my daughter about "sex". I spent the entire last year trying to avoid the conversation, and then wound up giving really brief explanations. Great teaching and parenting there, bitch! I actually just finished having that awkward conversation with my daughter, about a week ago. This was very awkward, and even hearing my daughter say the word "sex" was offputting. She even explained in detail how babies are made. Nice....I KNOW I didn't teach her that!
I no longer let Keagan/Mrs. Weeks into our lives. By the end of the school year at Woodruff Elementary, it was becoming very obvious that any parental friends I had were being "black balled" if they continued to be friends with me or my child. Children were being banned from hanging out with my daughter on the playground, and parents were avoiding me like the plague. I didn't care though. If they were TRUE friends, they would understand WHY I was angry at that school. Mrs. Weeks even made a comment that she no longer understood why I have issues with Woodruff, when they are SUDDENLY (in April, right before the end of school) were teaching her son. Heh. Go figure. I have since made NEW parental friends at the new school, and my daughter has made new friends.
My daughter does NOT have RAAD as bad anymore. She still has very shy moments, because of the previous bullying. It was originally really hard in the beginning of the year, what with the way the old school LOST her (if you don't know where someone/something is, it's lost). She went through all of the sudden changes like a trooper, and to this day: when we pass her old school, she calls it hell. Yup. She calls it hell and tells me how much she hated it there.
We loved this school so much that we enrolled my eldest AND youngest to attend this school, starting next week. (My youngest is starting kindergarten this year) I am overall really, really happy with the way this school operates. Hell, I make cupcakes and give out goody bags for EVERY Holiday. We go all out to help out, when not even asked.
Overall, this school is AWESOME. They are organized, caring, experienced, and a fantastic school!!!
My daughter has successfully managed to get through an ENTIRE school year at Bridger Elementary without any problems. The only problem any of us had with this new school was that field trip where the teacher was absent. When my daughter was being teased for her speech patterns, the teacher stopped it almost immediately. The principal even made sure that I was okay with how things were progressing with her. I am still very tempted to bake him cookies just for being understanding. He made that call out of the kindness of his heart, not because he was trying to cover anything up.
My daughter was never lost once at the new school. She did occassionally go to the front office when she couldn't see my car in the car line (this is something the old school taught her to do). Principal Guyman for two months was secluding her in his office, by himself, after school FOR NO REASON. I am still worried that he might of sexually abused her. However, the new school took her "habits" in stride and even CALLED me when there issues!!!! WOW! If she her lunch bag was missing (which actually happens a lot, because the carts get mixed up or kids take the wrong lunch bag home), the secretary would help us find it! WOW!
I received calls for her awards, updates on school fun stuff, and when she was sitting outside of the office instead of near our meeting spot. It is FANTASTIC! The old school did NOT do this, and you were lucky if you got a call when your daughter was punched in the face.
She was only bullied once, and it was stopped almost immediately. She received such high grades, AND her teacher knew what she was doing!! Even though her teacher missed a lot of the school year, you could tell her teacher was AMAZING at her job!!
My eldest was even given the "Leadership Award". She certainly is a little trooper. I cannot even begin to imagine what life would have been like if we had stayed at the previous school. We got to take as many pictures as we wanted, and we were all very proud of her.
Also, someone made an offhand comment about my blog when I was re-enrolling my eldest and youngest. One of the secretaries from one of the other schools has read it. She even teased and said if I "didn't like something, I'll probably just blog about it". Yup. I'll blog about it. It's best to have it all documented, then to ignore what was happening. This is something I learned from my attorney. Dates and occurrences are important to document.
Also, turns out Mrs. Shit was also telling my daughter about "sex". I spent the entire last year trying to avoid the conversation, and then wound up giving really brief explanations. Great teaching and parenting there, bitch! I actually just finished having that awkward conversation with my daughter, about a week ago. This was very awkward, and even hearing my daughter say the word "sex" was offputting. She even explained in detail how babies are made. Nice....I KNOW I didn't teach her that!
I no longer let Keagan/Mrs. Weeks into our lives. By the end of the school year at Woodruff Elementary, it was becoming very obvious that any parental friends I had were being "black balled" if they continued to be friends with me or my child. Children were being banned from hanging out with my daughter on the playground, and parents were avoiding me like the plague. I didn't care though. If they were TRUE friends, they would understand WHY I was angry at that school. Mrs. Weeks even made a comment that she no longer understood why I have issues with Woodruff, when they are SUDDENLY (in April, right before the end of school) were teaching her son. Heh. Go figure. I have since made NEW parental friends at the new school, and my daughter has made new friends.
My daughter does NOT have RAAD as bad anymore. She still has very shy moments, because of the previous bullying. It was originally really hard in the beginning of the year, what with the way the old school LOST her (if you don't know where someone/something is, it's lost). She went through all of the sudden changes like a trooper, and to this day: when we pass her old school, she calls it hell. Yup. She calls it hell and tells me how much she hated it there.
We loved this school so much that we enrolled my eldest AND youngest to attend this school, starting next week. (My youngest is starting kindergarten this year) I am overall really, really happy with the way this school operates. Hell, I make cupcakes and give out goody bags for EVERY Holiday. We go all out to help out, when not even asked.
Overall, this school is AWESOME. They are organized, caring, experienced, and a fantastic school!!!
Wonderful Parenting Skills
Went to the grocery store today, had to stop at customer service counter to get money orders. This is actually a normal routine for me. I usually go with the expectation that I will be there waiting in line for a long time, or waiting for all of the money orders to be printed out .... as slow as possible. Surprisingly, my kids were handling the wait pretty well this time.
The woman in front of me was totally not watching her kid, and it was fairly obvious she hadn't of even glanced back within the last 10 minutes (as shown by the mess created). This is more of a pet peeve of mine. I know it seems dramatic, but even if your child is within spitting distance...all it takes is 5 seconds for a pedophile to snatch your kid. All it takes is 5 seconds for your kid to fall out of the cart. You get the jist, watch your kids.
Sometimes I am over-protective with my own children, but I learned from my own experiences. I'm not nearly this overprotective when we are at the park. I calmly sit on a bench and watch them. I ALWAYS make sure to keep an eye on them in stores or in public venues. In stores, I make sure the cart (with them in or on it) is in front of my direct line of sight. This stops messes, knocking things off of shelves, breaking things, trying to kill each other...etc.
Anyways, this little girl was barely 2 years old and standing straight up in the bottom part of the buggy. You could tell there was barely any room in the cart for her. Soda boxes were all around her, and she really had nowhere to sit down (too many groceries in the bottom). All it would take is one wobble and she'd face plant the floor. I'm unsure as to why the mother didn't just put her in the top part of the buggy (you know the place where children SIT), as there was plenty of room there.
There was this little girl, munching on an entire bag of rice patties. She was holding the bag, grabbing one out, and then chomping on it. This is pretty normal behavior for a kid, and a main reason I don't give my kids an entire bag of ANYTHING. Most of it goes to waste on the floor that way. Some of it was getting into her mouth, and most of it was sliding down her chin to land on the floor around the cart. Crumbs were everywhere by the time I showed up, so who knows how long this woman had been at the counter before I got there. Most of it was this soppy wet mess on the floor.
So, after about 10-15 minutes of her trying to get a refund for the rice patties her daughter was currently eating (I'm really not kidding)...she finally turns back to her daughter and notices the MASSIVE mess. The "mother" doesn't even flinch at the mess. I was appalled. I understand kids make messes, but THIS much in public? Uh. No. Not gonna happen. If it does mysteriously happen, I'll clean it up and stop the mess before it gets worse.
The "mother" picks up the biggest, soggiest piece off the ground (which really didn't help much at all) and hands it to the poor guy behind the counter. I mean hand, as in puts it in his hand while she says "here". EW!!!! He threw it out and didn't say anything. I felt SOO bad for him! Not only does he probably have to clean up the mess on the floor, but he also was HANDED this soggy piece of food.
To make matters worse, she reaches over to her purse and grabs a used diaper (I could smell it). She handed that to the poor guy and tells him to "throw that out too". "I'm sure you have a trash can back there." UGH. It wasn't even wrapped in a plastic bag or anything. Just this wet, nasty diaper! I mean, the bathroom was right THERE. If you're going to change your kid, at least throw it out yourself. There are TONS of trashcans all over the place.
In the end, I think she allowed her child to make a mess and acting like a disgusting person just because she couldn't get a refund on something her child was eating in front of his face. They don't offer refunds for items that have already been consumed. Wonderful entitlement attitude.
Child Abuse At Ross
I'm a firm believer in not getting involved in any type of other people's parenting, unless it is very obvious that a child is being abused or crosses my *imaginary* line. Obviously, my limit on certain things will probably vary from other people's. For the most part, I try not to get involved...as they are not my children. But, if I see someone going above and beyond to abuse their children - I WILL step in.
We were are Ross, for a rare "date night", one where the hubby actually said I could buy whatever I wanted. Which meant, he was going to force me to spend some money on myself, or attempt to, before he let the matter go. This is completely rare for me, as I usually want presents for the house or the kids. Buying that new pot, is more important then replacing the old shirt I've been wearing since I was 15 years old. My clothing needs or frills will always come last on the budget, and usually aren't taken care of. I think we even had a discussion about how long it had been since I bought something strictly for ME. (I believe I'm sitting at around 20 years without buying anything for me. Hey that new vacuum cleaner was important!) Don't even get me started on how much I hate shopping.
Anyways... so there I was checking out maternity clothes (5 months pregnant, and barely even showing..../sigh), which I've never really had before. I usually just wear my husband's old shirts and a pair of "fat pants" or sweats. When I turn to my left, and see the massive array of shoes. Yes, strappy sandals are my weakness...even if I'll only wear them once in a blue moon instead of flip flops. It was like seeing the holy grail.
Unfortunately, none of them were fitting and none of them were "cute enough". I'm really picky about my sandals. So, just as we were turning to leave the store...I heard a ruckus going on not 5 feet from me. Being the nosey person I am, we turned to look to see what was going on.
This woman (35-ish), started out yelling loudly at her (12 yr old?) daughter. It looked like the woman had three children total (12 yrs old, 8 yrs old, and 5 yrs old?). The daughter didn't know how to put on one of the strappy sandals...and asked the mother for help. The mother was not in a helping mood. Instead of helping this girl, the mother was in an all out rage. "I'm not going to teach you how to put that on, you should have had it done already. Put them on now!" There was plenty of other comments, such as the girl was being stupid and annoying.
Now, it's obvious when your kid doesn't know how to do something...or even if they do and want attention...you help them out. At the best, this stops the constant "I don't know how" whines. At the least, it gives you a minute to teach your child something - again - for kicks. It's called parenting. I was intrigued and horrified, at best. I also know the feeling of losing patience with your children, and maybe snapping at them a bit. So, I thought this was no big deal. Boy, was I wrong.
As we turned to leave again, while my husband is making comments about how I always have to make sure that no one is being abused (and that it's none of my business) - I see the woman take the sandal out of the girl's hand and start hitting her - hard - with it. I'm not talking about one or two hits. I am talking about 10 hits before I finally got over to them. You could hear the hitting, it was that hard. This stopped even my husband dead in his tracks, and I could see him getting angry. (He doesn't get involved when it's a woman, as he doesn't want her to randomly say he hit her...even when he didn't. THIS has happened before.)
I finally get over to the woman, and ripped the sandal out of her hand. When I'm that mad, I can't really remember verbatim what I say. The jist of it was, she is abusing her child and if she continues to do it...I'll call the cops. The little girl was in tears, and the mom was in indigent that I god forbid get involved in her "parenting". I told her that beating your child with a sandal, is not considered parenting by most standards. I know I asked the little girl if she was okay, and the store manager eventually showed up. They escorted the mom out, kids in tow. I still don't think that was an appropriate response by the management.
There was applause from other shoppers about my actions. I'm still not sure it was deserved, as I didn't really do anything other then stopping the abuse from happening in public. No one else stepped in. The manager didn't even seem to want to get involved, until she realized what a scene it had created. The manager wouldn't let us leave the store until the woman drove away. I was hoping to get a license plate, or something, for later use...if I called the cops.
Who knows what happens behind closed doors. I should have called the cops, but for some reason I didn't. I do regret not calling the cops, if only to assess and make sure ALL the children weren't being abused. I'm still not sure why I didn't. I only managed to stop what was happening THEN and THERE. Who knows what happens at home.
I'm still unsure why no one else stepped in. Why I didn't call the cops? Is this is considered abuse in this state? This is something I need to look into more. I mainly didn't call the police because after she left, I had no way of tracking her down. No license plates, no names, nothing.
In the end, I'd step in again. That "mother's" actions were over the line. There is a limit to beating a kid, verbally, or mentally abusing your kid in public. While I might not step in if a parent calls their child stupid once, I WILL step in if someone hits their kid with a sandal. (I mainly don't step in for verbal or mental abuse, simply because it could be a one time thing...and you never know if the kid broke a $50 glass vase or something...)
I completely disagree with the "it takes a village to raise a child". No, it takes a loving parent who can provide strict guidelines. While I am not the most amazing parent in the world, I would never beat my children with a sandal. I'm perfectly human like every other parent out there, and sometimes lose my patience. But, losing your patience and turning it THAT physical in public...is obviously over the line. Hell, just the fact she was doing it in public? That means something else was going on...
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