Crystal McCullough - Kicked Out of Bar for Breastfeding and Drinking

http://www.hlntv.com/video/2014/09/04/breastfeeding-mom-nurse-beer-woody-restaurant?hpt=hln10_4

I think this could have been handled better on the MOM'S part.  The business was just trying to field complaints about the mo DRINKING while breastfeeding.


Does this woman not realize that her milk contains that alcohol, and she is feeding it to her child?  It doesn't matter if she was waiting to drink her little fireball shot until AFTER she done...because she most likely would be feeding that child again within the next 2-3 hours (when the alcohol finally passes through her system).  She claims to have had only "one sip of beer" and was waiting until she had more.  Bull fucking shit.  What person really truly tells the truth about ONLY having ONE sip when caught?  Come on now.  We see it ALL the time.  (And even IF - strong IF - she is telling the truth, she is still WRONG).


There may be no law about breastfeeding while drinking, but there is starting to be one.  Does she not realize a mother was just arrested for her newborn having meth in her system?  All it takes is some legal wording, and if your child has a drop of alcohol in their system...you can be arrested too!  Just because there is no SPECIFIC law about it...doesn't make it right.


If you truly cared about your child's safety, you shouldn't of even had ONE sip of beer...let alone be IN a bar with your kidlet.  WHY bring your baby into a BAR (she was actually outside on a smoke deck...awesome place for an 11 month old)?  Get a sitter.  Not only is that BAD parenting, but really...a BAR?  They aren't exactly the safest places to be, and there IS an age limit.  Weren't we all JUST jumping on a woman for allowing her 8 year old to come inside a bar with her recently?  Why are we NOT jumping on this woman for going into a bar with her newborn?

I'd also like to see the proof that she is a "degreed chemist" (her own words) and she has done tests on how much alcohol she can consume without it affecting her child.  Seriously, woman?  I don't believe your little medical experiment for a damn second.

I have done some research on this before.  The general consensus is 2-3 hours after consuming an entire beer before you feed your little monkey again from the beginning.  However, you can start drinking that beer 10-15min before you are done with your CURRENT feeding.  IE Either way this woman would have had a WARM beer, and WHO wants a WARM beer?  She's full of shit.

“Alcohol passes freely into mother’s milk and has been found to peak about 30 to 60 minutes after consumption, 60 to 90 minutes when taken with food (note: she wasn't eating). Alcohol also freely passes out of a mother’s milk and her system. It takes a 120 pound woman about two to three hours to eliminate from her body the alcohol in one serving of beer or wine…the more alcohol that is consumed, the longer it takes for it to be eliminated. It takes up to 13 hours for a 120 pound woman to eliminate the alcohol from one high-alcohol drink. The effects of alcohol on the breastfeeding baby are directly related to the amount the mother consumes.”
La Leche League Website
http://www.lalecheleague.org/faq/alcohol.html

So the La Leche says the beer AND shot (if both drank WHILE breastfeeding) would be in her milk in 30-60 minutes.  The beer would take 2-3 hours and the shot would take close to 13 hours to finally pass through her system.  ~*~The more you know~*~  So, even if this woman was just "sipping" her beer or just had a "sip" of her beer, it COULD have been fed to her baby during the time she was feeding it.  Naturally, this depends on how hungry the monkey was.  A beer and a shot would roughly take her to about .68 BAC if consumed within an hour of each other.  (The amount of alcohol in your breastmilk is the same as the amount in your blood)

Even if she wanted to bring her child to a bar (real classy right there), she could have pumped before she left.  None of this would have happened if she had been prepared beforehand.  This falls on her head again.  She is to blame for the other patrons being upset, thus making the manager say something to her, thus getting her kicked out.

"Organizations like the Mayo Clinic advise that mothers not drink alcohol right before breast-feeding their babies since the amount of alcohol hitting the mother's bloodstream is the same amount that enters their breast milk.

BabyCenter.com advises that mothers wait at least two hours after finishing an alcoholic beverage before nursing to give their bodies a chance to clear the alcohol."
Even the REAL experts are saying she is in the WRONG here.  Granted, I don't take them worth their salt most of the time...but in this case, it's numerous departments and places saying she was WRONG.  Also, there is such a thing as common sense.

This woman isn't fighting a "breastfeeding in public" issue.  She was essentially asked to leave by management because other patron's were complaining about her DRINKING and feeding a baby.  She needs to take her 15 minutes of fame and stop humping this restaurant's facebook page (where she constantly changes her story).

From the horse's mouth:  "I said there is no law that says I can't breast-feed and drink. I'm not doing anything wrong, and he then proceeded to say, you know what, it's also my right to refuse service. I'm going to be cashing you guys out, you can leave," she told the station."

LOL!  She got TOLD!  She tries to pull the "I have rights" card, and the manager is like..well, bitch, I have rights too.  Now, get the fuck out.  That's an AWESOME way to handle a drama queen like this.  She wants to act all high and mighty?  Well, she can do it at home.  She doesn't need to be causing a scene or drama in this restaurant.

*Note: The baby was not a newborn, but actually 11 months old.*


Shortish version
Some facts:
“Alcohol passes freely into mother’s milk and has been found to peak about 30 to 60 minutes after consumption, 60 to 90 minutes when taken with food (note: she wasn't eating). Alcohol also freely passes out of a mother’s milk and her system. It takes a 120 pound woman about two to three hours to eliminate from her body the alcohol in one serving of beer or wine…the more alcohol that is consumed, the longer it takes for it to be eliminated. It takes up to 13 hours for a 120 pound woman to eliminate the alcohol from one high-alcohol drink. The effects of alcohol on the breastfeeding baby are directly related to the amount the mother consumes.”
La Leche League Website
http://www.lalecheleague.org/faq/alcohol.html

"Organizations like the Mayo Clinic advise that mothers not drink alcohol right before breast-feeding their babies since the amount of alcohol hitting the mother's bloodstream is the same amount that enters their breast milk.

BabyCenter.com advises that mothers wait at least two hours after finishing an alcoholic beverage before nursing to give their bodies a chance to clear the alcohol."

My opinion:
How many times have we heard someone say: "It was only a sip, officer!" Come on. No one drinks a WARM beer (ew)...and she was on a smoke deck type of deal outside of the bar. So, not only did she bring her 11 month old to a bar...but sat down in the smoker's area AND was drinking (at least a SIP) while feeding her child. Then, she decided to order her beer/shots early...and ONLY had a sip? With the beer and the shot alone, her BAC would easily have been .68 and the blood alcohol level is the SAME as her milk alcohol level....

Also, she apparently (according to her) is a "degreed chemist" who knows EXACTLY how much alcohol she can consume. Uh huh. Sure, sweetheart. If the professionals are ALL agreeing on one thing, it's usually right...but I guess we should believe YOUR story, huh?

Patrons complained, she was told to stop drinking while feeding the baby, she tried to express her rights...and the manager expressed his. Thus, she was kicked out. Maybe she shouldn't of made such a big scene/deal out of the whole thing. You want to pull out your rights? Don't be surprised when someone exercises some of theirs! If she didn't try to get snotty with the guy, I'm sure she could have stayed IF she stopped drinking WHILE feeding her baby.

(She's also trolling the bar's facebook page, where her story keeps changing. Even classier!)

This could have all been avoided if she had 1) pumped before she left or 2) get a sitter. Even if she wanted to go out and have fun times, did she have extra milk lying around at home for AFTER she was done drinking? Because that can take up to 13 hours just to get rid of ONLY that ONE shot. (2-3 hours for the beer, 13 hours for the shot) If she did have some pumped for AFTER she was done drinking, why not bring some for when you are out and ARE going to be drinking? Oh right...common sense.

She's just not a bright person and needs to look into things a bit more before trying to throw around her "mommy rights".

In the end this isn't even about breastfeeding. She was asked to leave OR correct her issue that other patron's were complaining about (make the masses happy over the one). She did neither AND pitched a drama fit. She was politely asked to leave. Later she makes a stink out of it for attention. Done.


Some comments from people that were there:
Morgan Santiago You might know the family but were you there? Cause I was. And the manager was trying to help the situation because no it is not illegal what she did but there we're male customers so upset by what was going on that they wanted to fight hers husband/ the father for allowing her to drink while breast feeding their child

It seems like this was causing such a problem that fights were close to breaking out.  No wonder the manager got involved.  Aside from the complaints, no one wants fights in their bar. 

Editted:

In the end there are over 3 different places that agree to "statistics". (I usually don't quote the LLL because they tend to be hypocritical sometimes). I could probably scrounge up some more with just a google search.

Fights were going to break out. She admitted to drinking it while breastfeeding. She caused a scene, then made it even bigger...changed her story. Now she is continuing this drama. She needs to grow up.

She was disturbing the peace of the other customers due to the DRINKING (not JUST the breastfeeding, the customers didn't care she was breastfeeding until they saw her drinking). When she was asked politely to stop either breastfeeding OR drinking, she had a bitch fit. The managers told her to leave. It's in their right to do that. Period.

I'd also have an issue if I saw some woman drinking while breastfeeding. Most of those quotes I posted were estimates, so it could be faster or longer too. Who knows. You should NOT be drinking while breastfeeding. It's not only trashy but it's dangerous to your child.

She admitted to having ordered an entire beer (and having at least a sip WHILE feeding) and a fireball. Doesn't sound very responsible to me.

She's wrong.

Editted: Dear god...she admitted to a sip of the FIREBALL and a FEW sips of the beer. Woah. Just woah. This was admitted on their facebook/in an interview, AFTER the restaurant said they have surveillance. So, I was right. It went from JUST sipping water, to "only a sip", to a few sips, to only a few sips of the beer and A sip from the fireball. Chick was drinking while feeding her kid, and she ONLY admitted it when there was concrete proof.

This wasn't a big deal until SHE made it a big deal. She was asked politely to leave (as is their right) or cease drinking while breastfeeding. She caused an up roar online, in public, and now in the news.

I'm still sketchy on whether she was kicked out or not. In one interview it is implied she was asked to leave, and in another they say they closed out her tab...prohibiting her from ordering anymore alcohol. When that happened, she left. So, not sure which REALLY happened...as it's sketchy at best.


Update:

Here's some of her own facebook photos of her basically drinking nonstop.  She has more public pictures of her with a beer or wine glass in her hand, then she does of her kid/s.  Some are pictures of her NEAR wine empty wine glasses/beer cups.  So, she could possibly say they aren't hers...but there are PLENTY of her HOLDING the cups of beer and bragging about it.  She obviously likes to drink.  I didn't feel like making a screenshot of ALL of these.  She will probably remove most of them eventually.  So, have at it.

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This one isn't very flattering but I decided to post it anyways.

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Crystal Dize McCullough Beer holder. Frankly I use her as an ice cream bowl holder:)
Kimberly N. Davis Omg! Too cute!! That baby bump makes a cute beer holder! Xoxo
July 13, 2013 at 12:08pm · 1
Crystal Dize McCullough Mike thinks so too!
July 13, 2013 at 12:54pm

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pregnant at a bar, riding a pole

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march 18th, 2013 posted
beer in hand
baby is 11 months old = born around oct-november, 2013

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Here are some of her comments/reviews:

9/2/2014

My wife and I were kicked out of this establishment, by the General Manager Danny, because my wife was nursing our 11 month old daughter. When my wife told him it was a state law and he couldn't stop her from doing so he said "...and you are aware that I can refuse service to anyone I choose". In 2014 this type of behavior is unacceptable and should not be tolerated! You have lost two long time customers for life.
 
9/1/2014

A military veteran friend and his wife went here, she was breast feeding their baby daughter and were told "we are sorry this is a family restaurant" and were asked to leave. This is a disgraceful establishment if they feel that a baby doesn't have just as much right to eat as anyone else.  I have been here myself and wasn't impressed but this is enough to guarantee that I do not ever go again. Shameful.


"8/3/2014

I have given Big Woody's a second, AND third chance. Every time my wife and I go, we can always rely on... Horrible waitress', flat draft beer, watered down mixed drinks, and a deck we can't enjoy because of smoking.  Their food is typical bar food, but nothing to write home about... No idea how they won "best wings" a couple years back, were they the only people entered in the competition ?"

"9/1/2014

0 stars!! I have never been here and will never go! The owner thought it was ok to kick my friend out for discreetly breast feeding her daughter out on the deck!"
 

This is an interesting review, I linked the entire review so you can get a grasp of what OTHER reviews basically say.  It's a damn bar.  The smoke deck is a SMOKE DECK.:
1/23/2012

It's a bar. Do not go there expecting a quality restaurant or worthy meal menu. It's simply a mediocre bar. It probably has been around for a long enough time to earn some kind of reputation with a few old timers to earn it some kind of reputation as a place to go. We went for dinner and that was a flop! Appetizer of thawed frozen spinach and sprinkled parmesan cheese...did someone forget to at least microwave the spinach? LOL! Sesame crusted ahi (tuna)...okay, first time overcooked and waitress said she was having another serving prepared. The course I then got was then completely rare. I requested to just box it up and I planned to take it home and "doctor" it up to my own liking.  Well, I never got the entree to take home. Somehow it got boxed and thrown away by another waitress. The salad I ordered prior to my entree never was delivered and the waitress just shrugged it off when I mentioned it! Do these owners/servers know there is an abundance of quality places to spend money in these hard economic times?! Don't waste your hard earned money on this dinosaur."


*Note: All previous reviews says something similiar to this:  "This is definitely the typical sports bar." *



Generally, even her comments are just....skewy at best. She's looking for attention and just SCREAMS white trash.  I also doubt her husband is a true veteran.  He has no photos in uniform and I couldn't find ANY information on him being one.

Raymond Frolander - Beaten When Caught Mid-Molestation

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lyLgZ65CrUQ

I'm all for the dad!  Go dad!  My husband and I have a rule about this very situation.  If we ever caught someone harming one of our children like this, my husband would either kill or beat the ever living shit out of the person.  We both understand he would go to jail for this action, and we both understand that vigilante justice is not always warranted...however, that is the stance we have taken in our house.  If you harm one of mine, you will be harmed right back.  We won't leave it up to chance that MAYBE the fellow prisoners MIGHT find out that you are a pedophile.  We'll make sure you get some justice on our own.  (This is mainly due to the fact that said pedophile would get VERY little time in our country.  I've seen it happen numerous times, they get maybe 1/4th a year for every year they molested/raped your child.  It's not right and it's not legal justice.)  This is all obviously if we had 100% proof of said rape/molestation.  I wouldn't want to almost kill someone for no reason.

The little pedophile admitted it and was caught IN THE ACT by the father.  Apparently he had been abusing the teen (now 11?) for close to 3 years, since he was 8.  The pedophile obviously took a massive beating.  Good.  He was also the son's babysitter.  Oh man....a position of trust and authority.  I'd probably lose my shit too if I caught someone doing this to my child.  At least the dad left him alive.  Good, he can use extenuating emotional circumstances as his defense.  But, the dad luckily won't be charged.  Phew.

The dad showed a lot of restaint, and his 911 call is HILARIOUS!  (Do you have any weapons in the house?  Just my fist and boot!  BWAHAHAHA!)

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/florida-dad-pummeled-son-alleged-molester-child-real-hero-article-1.1875636

The dad did wind up grabbing a knife to stab a bastard, but his son intervened.  The dad claims his son is the true hero for saving his attacker's life.  The dad was also abused as a boy, so he said he knows how to handle any future conversations or healing.  Good on the dad.  I hope this boy receives and help he requires.

There is a donation website set up for the dad, but I couldn't find it.  I would donate myself, but I can't seem to find it!  I think this family could willingly and easily use the money to help his son or even his family's life.  This is a horrible situation to be in and terrible to live through.

Tonya Whitney Boehs - Tries to Steal Real Babies

http://abcnews.go.com/US/california-woman-carrying-fake-babies-maternity-ward-charged/story?id=25095869

She was wearing scrubs (wrong color scrubs, and who keeps a pair lying around the house when they haven't EVER worked in some sort of medical capacity - IE a NURSE), her husband was getting treated on an entirely different floor (supposedly the ER), and supposedly nurses told her it was "okay" to bring the fake babies into the maternity unit to sell (on two different days she attempted this without permission).  She wasn't trying to steal a baby....uh huh...she was just trying to SELL the fake babies to mourning mothers (this changed later to selling them to the nurses).  She also had an outdated business card from the board of directors and a fake appointment to see them.  So, seems like they have been planning this for a while.  (Alibi and all that - check!)

Why not just wear sweatpants instead of SCRUBS to a hospital if your clothes truly didn't fit anymore.  This isn't like giving a blanket to new mothers, this is straight up creepy.  I highly doubt any mother who just lost her child is going to want to BUY a fake baby while they are recovering in the hospital... It later changed to wanting to sell to the nursing staff as a "teaching tool". Also the husband, (also in scrubs but didn't show up the 2nd attempt), has a gauze bandage around his wrist, covering maybe a tattoo?, and some creepy long nails.  There is also no evidence/proof that she has EVER sold this dolls, until AFTER she was arrested (she wrote a note on her facebook page with the prices of the dolls).

Apparently someone that knows her claims she is constantly getting pregnant to trap guys, then suddenly losing the baby.  I wouldn't put it past a woman like this to steal a child, she seems nuts.











https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OKUijpMPUVw

Even just listening to her story makes me want to gag.  She didn't want to bring her FAKE dolls with her because of SECURITY for herself and her dolls?  What??? What about the security of the mothers and their newborns?  Where is this woman's head at?

Did anyone else notice her body swaying like she is rocking a REAL baby?  That's creepy.

She changes her story a few times.  1) She did it because nurses suggested it.  2) She had an appointment with the board of directors (that didn't exist, and she was wearing scrubs to this meeting??).  3) She did it because she LOVES helping people. 4) Advertisement purposes.  5)  She sells them.  6) Therapy for the elder or mothers who are mourning.  The lists go on and on.  This woman is doing more flip flops then my 8 year old in the pool.

In my mind, there is no doubt about it...she was trying to steal a REAL baby.  It's obvious.

School Parking Enforcement and Entitlement

I have written before about how I volunteer (as a fellow parent) to help enforce the parking situation at my children's school.  I started volunteering due to a woman hitting my car numerous times in what I've deemed "the circle".  It's really just a one way loop.  The entire school grounds is ALL one way, but you'd never know that based on the way people drive and how many times I have to point out the one way signs/arrows.  The arrows are always repainted every 3 months, too, but parents just do NOT care.  They want to get their kid and get out of there asap.  God forbid there be ANY traffic.  God forbid they follow the laws.  But, whatever, I offered to help and I've been pretty much STUCK doing it.

I had my car banged in 3 times, and each time the woman drive off.  The first two times she didn't even apologize and basically told me that I shouldn't of "been there".  Mind you, I was parked.  I wasn't moving.  She could have avoided me easily.  Eventually, I had her arrested for leaving the scene of an accident on the third time. I let her get away with it the first two times, due to my car being a 2004 Acura MDX.  It can take a few hits, but that doesn't mean I should put up with it or that she should be doing anything that dangerous on school grounds.  The third time she once again didn't apologize and left a sizable dent on my front right tire well.  I was unhappy.  She even had the nerve to pull over for a second, joke about how I was going "nuts" (I was honking the horn and telling her to stop her car) with one of the teachers.  When she left the scene again, I realized she was never going to learn her lesson.  I had her arrested for leaving the scene of an accident (she later tried to get me "fired" from parking enforcement via a friend of hers threatening to kill me - also recorded).  She was going to initially refuse to pay for the damages, but I have a camera on my dashboard.  I recorded the whole incident.  She quickly changed her story.  Kind of hard to refute hardcore EVIDENCE.  She eventually paid for the damage.

I have been volunteering to help with the parking/traffic enforcement ever since.  I started approximately 2.5 years ago.  It has not been a lot of fun for me.  I started with a "helper" originally, but he had a car accident over the summer break (he was training to be a fireman and a drunk driver hit him).  He can no longer volunteer, as he can barely walk.  I am doing it solo this year.  I tend to run across the parking lots quite a bit (the school parking lots are actually huge and hard to maintain solo).  I tend to tell people mainly where it is okay to park, and help direct the flow of traffic (both on foot and those driving).  I even got a nifty new stop sign to use this year!  (Yes, awesome!)

Not only do I make it safer for their children, but I help get the traffic out of the way...so they can get out of there quicker.  No one likes traffic.  It's a headache.  I help with that.  I keep people safe, and I help them go about their way.  Personally, I hate the traffic myself.  My kids take forever to get out of school.  I have the time to do this, sometimes.  So, I volunteer and put up with a lot of shit while doing it.  (I can never even begin to explain how many times I've just wanted to scream at some idiot, but I hold my tongue.)

I'm sure everyone has seen the parking outside of their children's school, or the general school rush.  It's hell, now imagine trying to get it all under control.  That's even WORSE.  I try to get the cars and kids through the after school rush as quickly and as safely as possible, even at risk to myself.  I have been hit by cars (I actually went onto the hood of someone's car that was going too fast, and he hit me due to being unable to stop.  I'm lucky I wasn't seriously injured.  You should NEVER speed outside of your children's school!), another child (not mine) has been hit while crossing the "loop" (car was parked illegally, kid was fine if a little scraped up), and the cops have ticketed many people.  But, that doesn't change anything.  I hand out the rules to people parked illegally, and those that have no idea.  I also leave a copy of the rules on windshields of people parked illegally in the school bus ONLY lane.  This doesn't change their entitled me-me-me attitudes, nor their asshole tendencies.

I tend to be a happy person while on duty. Even when someone is screaming in my face, but when 3:00pm comes around (~65min after I show up) I tend to start losing my patience with the entitled assholes.  I have an issue with one or two of the same parents.  I have memorized their license plates, that is how often I deal with them.  I have tried everything from being nice and informative, to being stern and informative.  I try to always remain polite.  However, once that 3pm rolls around, I am tired (and 4 months pregnant) in the sweaty heat. I just want to go home.  I shouldn't have to KEEP having these same exact conversations with people.  I shouldn't have to put up with these two assholes verbally abusing me or threatening to physically assault me.  (I have been assaulted once before, and I recorded the incident.  Her child still attends school but is required to ride the bus now)

I have had many conversations with parents, and most of them truly had no idea about the school parking rules - even though I carry copies of the rules on me, and they hand out of the rules EVERY week.  I am happy to inform the ones that have no idea, even if they are lying.  I tend to have a lot of patience when it comes to the truly unknowing or the ones that just need to be warned once/twice.  I actually have a LOT of interesting conversations with other parents.  Sometimes, I just chill out and talk to them for a bit.  It's my little way of making sure they feel welcome and not like I am singling them out.  I even handed out lollipops the other day to those that parked correctly, with a thank you note attached.  THESE types of parents make my job EASIER.  I LOVE these types of parents, as they are more then willing to either stand up for me or help me sometimes by telling others they are parked illegally.  I don't even mind if they are being fake nice with me, I really don't care.  If I don't have to say anything to them, then it's less work/running around for me.

What I do NOT have patience for is the one or two ASSHOLES I come into contact EVERY fucking day.  Today, I came into contact with one of the repeat offenders.  He's a real gem for sure.  He drives an old blue truck/suv.  His wife and him are super obese.  I have spoken with this "man" at least a dozen times this year, and we are only 2-3 weeks into school.  (Last year, I tallied how many times I spoke to him...and it reached into 80s..)  He is purely lazy, and so is his wife.  He only needs to pull up about 10 feet and it's completely legal to stop there to pick up his wife.  But, instead, he ALWAYS parks on the emergency/handicapped fire curb (this is a one way single lane road with red curbs, handicapped ramps, and fire hydrants).  But, today, I gave it back to him.  I informed him that there is a cop that watches the "loop" and does ticket people that park/stop illegally.  I told him that there have been many accidents in the loop and that if he wanted to do a quick pick up and go, he should use the YELLOW assigned spots. (Did I mention that there is paint in BRIGHT letters/words/arrows that help enforce this?  He ignores it)  He called me a stupid bitch.  I don't curse outside of my kids' school, I don't want other children (not my own) learning curse words from me...and having to hear their parents bitching about it later.  I also try to remain polite, even when people are assholes to me.  However, today was not one of those days...and he had given me lip yesterday.  I was naturally out of patience by the time he spewed his hate at me.  I informed him I was 4 months pregnant and shouldn't have to walk across three parking lots to tell some fat fuck that he is parked illegally.  Yeah, not my shining moment of awesome - and I shouldn't of cursed, but no one was around to hear, so whatever.  His fatass wife can walk an additional 10 steps to get into his car when he is picking her up, especially if I could do it in the previous years with even WORSE medical conditions then her/him. (Obesity is NOT a medical condition in my mind, it's a stupidity issue. You should NEVER expect special treatment just because you are obese.  There are OTHER people who truly NEED to park closer, and this couple is NOT one of them.)

Let me explain this to those of you reading this:  I still did parking enforcement last year when my hip was dislocated  (by 4 inches!) for ~5 months of my last pregnancy - on crutches.  I did it while I was still recovering physically from meningitis,and still having the light sensitivity/headaches/back-neck pain/etc.  I did it while 9 months pregnant (when possible) and felt like I was going to go into labor ANY minute.  I did it when I shouldn't of been doing it.  I did it during the rain.  I did it when it was below freezing out and a blizzard outside.  I do it now, during the 95 degree weather...while pregnant and wanting to vomit the whole time.  I do it ALL the time, and these people are damn lucky I do it at all.  No one wants to do this.  It's not a fun "job" to volunteer for.  (My theory is: if I could park legally and HELP with the traffic/parking while basically unable to walk for MONTHS...then they can do it while healthy.  There is NO EXCUSE, not even a handicapped placard for parking in the FIRE LANE.  They have handicapped ONLY areas for a REASON.  USE THEM.)
 
My husband is not a fan, for sure.  He tells me to quit all the time, but I've seen what happens when I miss even a day of doing it.  It goes to hell in a hand basket and takes WEEKS to get it back under control again.  I do this because I want the accidents to stop.  I want people to follow the law.  Why is it that the minute they hit school property, people just ignore that there are LAWS to follow?  Do they think they are special?  This is still a place you can get ticketed.  It is still illegal.  Just because you are on school property, doesn't mean that it's any LESS illegal to do.  You should especially be following the law and being super careful, because you NEVER KNOW if a kid is going to randomly dart in front of your car!  But, whatever.  These people are all about THEIR needs.

So, today, I took another picture of his car/truck/suv garbage thing parked illegally.  If I see him doing it again within the next week, I will be taking it down to the police precinct.  I will ask them to start ticketing people AGAIN, as I can't enforce EVERYONE.  I'm also going to have a talk with the principal, as I *think* his wife works for the school.  At the very least, she should know better AND should have had a talk with him BEFORE.

But, people are still surprised that I am not paid for this job, nor am I a teenager making some extra fun money.  They are truly surprised I have 3 children and another on the way.  I am unhappy that I have to constantly police people (they are like sharks, the minute my back is turned..someone is attempting to break the law and then trying to lie about it.  Apparently, my eyes don't work and it was really the person in front of them....every fucking time.  Uh huh.).  I should NOT have to be a babysitter to GROWN ASS ADULTS.  I shouldn't have to hear EXCUSES.  Take responsibility for your actions, follow the laws, and stop being dicks.  I KNOW if I saw you doing it.  I KNOW if it was you, or not.  I KNOW if you are lying to me.  I may come across as a polite idiot and even excuse you for it sometimes, but that doesn't mean you get away with it.

I also had a unique occurrence today.  I've heard all of the excuses before, and it is truly rare when I find someone comes up with a new one.  This one takes the cake though - for this year, so far.  Today, the same repeat offender (a woman in a silver car) was sitting in the red fire lane again.  She tried to speed past me, but I learned a long time ago to just stand in the street and make them stop.  If they hit me, it's because they were speeding or doing something illegal.  I've informed her numerous times not to park in the fire lane.  Today, I once again informed her she cannot park there and her excuse?  "Well, the crossing guard holds up traffic so far back that I can't help but try to get out of here sooner!  Can't you do anything about that?"  Huh, what?  The crossing guard is a nice old man, who puts the children first.  Traffic is the last of his concerns.  He cares ONLY about the children crossing the street.  He also works for the city and gets PAID!  I help with the traffic, so that there is only about a 10-15minute window of traffic, but I can't be in two places at once.  The traffic COULD be MUCH worse (and it's truly terrible in the morning when I don't do my shift), and that is NO excuse to park illegally.  Whatever.  Sadly, the people behind her heard this conversation and about 5 total cars complained together about him.  It's like dominos.  Yesterday, the domino complaint was: "That wasn't me!  That was the car in front of me!  Did you talk to them?!"

I gave him some pre-warning that parents were whining about traffic and blaming it on him.  I told him not to worry though, as I think they are full of shit (I just wanted to make sure he KNEW people were complaining about him).  But, that's a new one for me.  Yesterday, her excuse was that it "was really quick though!".  Doesn't matter.  It's illegal.  I don't care if it's really quick or not.  If it's illegal, I'm required to say something - or really, what's the point in my being there?  Just to smile at people?  HA!

I am considering just not volunteering after Halloween.  I'm going to give the principal about a month or two to find a replacement.  (Good luck, man!)  I doubt he will though, and it will go to hell in a hand basket - again.  No one wants to do this, not even me.  This is a hard job, and we bite our tongues a LOT...so don't be surprised that one day when you are hurling insults at that VOLUNTEER...that the Jersey might come out and they give it right back to you.  I'm human, I deserve to be treated with RESPECT as I treat YOU with respect.

So, while you are picking your children up from school - keep in mind the other cars, the LAWS of the school area.  Be careful.  And...be polite.  Just don't make excuses, as they usually are full of shit, and people like me won't have to say anything to you.  If you follow the laws, you won't have any issues.

Update:

Found out today that in order to get other parents to volunteer, they had to offer to pay them.  Two new parents are coming into the fold and being paid.  I am to train them and then essentially quit.  I am angry that I was not offered a paycheck first (I was a LONG time ago, but never really considered it...).  I am angry that these parents need to be PAID in order to help out.  It seems like a slap in the face to not even be considered for the "job" when I have been doing it for so long, AND I have to train them.

At least, someone else will be doing it.  I am moving next year and currently pregnant.  I don't have a lot of time to be shuffling my butt across the parking lots and stuff.  I would not enjoy doing it while pregnant again.  I won't apply for a paid position simply because I was doing this in my free time and it was almost a zero commitment thing.  I could skip a day if needed.  Because it turned into an actual job, I wouldn't be able to skip a day (even if I don't usually).

So, I will train these new moms (one of which seems REALLY dense to how people act) and teach them what I know.  Then, I will go back to reading a book in my car.  Good luck to them!  I am officially done on Wednesday.


Update x2:

Apparently the one that DID show up gets paid by the school to watch the handicapped children get onto buses everyday.  This takes a total of 10 minutes and she gets paid 20 bucks per day for it.  This also means she can only volunteer between 2:40 and 3pm.  School gets out at 2:30pm.  I need to be there at 1:55pm to start clearing out the illegally parked cars.  So, basically, she is getting paid to do nothing.  She's also a massive push over.  These parents are going to eat her alive.

The other new girl never even showed up.  So, no clue there on what happened to her.  All I know is there was I  having to do this duty by myself again, and these two chicks are being paid to do it.  Wtf.  Why am I still having to do their job for them?  And who the fuck is the other chick?