Christmas Concerts and Rudeness

I have two kidlets that are currently in elementary school.  Both had their Christmas concerts on separate days, and we attended both of them.  I'm sure this is due to the fact that the "gym"/lunchroom is tiny and can only hold so many people.  Thus, they broke up the grade levels by days.  Usually, there aren't many parents for any of the "older" grades (IE:  Anything above Kindergarten)...but this year is a bit different.

My youngest actually had her Christmas concert the day before my eldest.  We were actually later getting out of the door than I wanted to be.  We wound up showing up around 20 minutes early, instead of our usual 30-40 minutes early.  We usually leave and get there so early because front row seats are in high demand, and people here are complete assholes when they want to record their precious darling.

So, as per usual, we brought little man with us.  I am also currently 23 weeks pregnant and struggling to walk/move without assistance.  We wound up getting some pretty good seats in the second row, right on the edge.  We liked our spot because little man can sometimes get grumpy, and one of us will just snatch him up and hold him.  This way, he's not interrupting the performance with any crying.

Anyways, so my youngest's grade level is actually going last, after the Kindergarteners.  So, we had to sit through about 45 minutes of other kids performing for their concert first.  This is also not a good position to be in, because there are tons of "new" parents who are REALLY desperate to get their kids on film.  They will do anything to do get it on film, including being incredibly rude.

Little man gets testy, so I swoop him up and stand right next to my husband's shoulder (he is recording).  I made sure no one was behind me, because I don't want to be in someone's way.  I am basically less than 10 inches away from my husband's shoulder.

Now, this happens every single time I stand up.  Someone will ALWAYS stand directly in front of me.  Mind you, there is no one behind me.  I am 4'9.  I am short.  It is very easy to record standing off to my side or behind me.  But, for some reason (without fail), every single time I stand up...there is ALWAYS some mother who MUST stand directly in front of me.  It doesn't matter WHERE I am in the room, the minute I stand up - they come stand directly in front of me.  Screw the fact that I had been standing there for however long with an unimpeded view of the "stage" (~20 minutes I was standing there).  Screw the fact that the other mother is ALWAYS much taller than me.  Screw the fact that she doesn't even say excuse me after she bumps into me.  This happens every single time.

It just so happens that at THIS concert, she decided to shove her way in between my husband and I.  Mind you, again, I WAS standing right next to him holding the baby right by his elbow.  So, she decides HER recording is more important than having some TACT.  She wedges herself in between my husband and I, and stands directly in front of me.  Thus, I am now pushed behind her ass and can no longer see.  I actually had to relocate to the entirely opposite side of the room, while holding the baby, just so I could see my kid perform.  My husband had to meet me at the car afterwards, due to being separated.



Okay, so you get the jist.  The second Christmas concert is set up almost exactly the same as the first.  My oldest is performing last.  We arrive 30 minutes early (phew!), and still only manage to get a seat in the 2nd row (boo!).

We are actually sitting BEHIND the obese woman who is on the PTA and started rumors about how I am supposedly a "teen whore mom".  She started this rumor about 3 years ago at a "Mommy for Muffins" event at the school, in front of my kids - who heard everything (and I had to explain to them what a whore was after that...).  I am unsure as to why it was started, as I was just grabbing a muffin for the kidlets and I at the time.  But, I could hear her plain as day saying very loudly that I looked like a teen slut and "omg how old is she?!?!?! how old is that kid?!?!?!".  Yes, lovely.  Small town = gossip travels fast.  I have not been a fan of hers since and avoid her at all costs.

I am naturally NOT happy about sitting near her.  I have never confronted her for her rumors, and have let it all go.  But, that doesn't mean I want to be anywhere near her.  (Side note:  She is also the type to show up to the school with her little dog on a leash - illegal  on school grounds - just to get attention from others about how SO CUTE HER DOG IS.  She likes to be the very center of attention, everywhere she goes and goes out of her way to get it.)  She is also on the PTA, but the PTA is notorious for doing absolutely nothing for the school.  It's just a bunch of moms gossiping, basically.  I do 100x more for the school every month, than this woman has done in 3 years.  But, I don't say any of my opinions and leave it all alone..because this is my child's school.  Don't make a scene.  Ignore the bitch, that's what I choose to do again.

So, after the 2nd graders finish their garbage, my daughter's turn FINALLY comes up (1 hour later).  This time I am prepared and bring 3 bottles, which little man basically inhales.  He is grumpy again.  Can't say that I blame him, though.  Fatty McGee's daughter is actually in 2nd grade, and has completed her concert.  Two seats next to Fatty McGee become available and my husband convinces me to move up a row.  Bad, bad decision.  I am now stuck sitting next to this woman.  Whatever, just ignore her and watch my kidlet.  Husband takes little man to hold, while I record quietly.

Fatty McGee has this power trip issue, as well.  She breaks school policies whenever she wants to, if it benefits her...and she gets away with it.  She has this NEED to try to be special.  Just follow the rules like everyone fucking else, geez.  (There are SO many stories I could tell about this woman)

After the kids perform, they are supposed to sit on the ground (in front of the parents) with their class.  Not so for Fatty's daughter.  No, no.  She is SPECIAL.  Instead of sitting with her class, her daughter and her decide to have her daughter LAY ON HER LAP (sideways, so her head OR feet are basically on MY lap) for the rest of the concert.  You really can't do that on these tiny metal chairs.  There's barely enough room to sit on these dinky little chairs, let alone laying across someone's lap.  There was a lot of "playing", so I have this little girls' terrible perm in view of my video or slapping me in the face randomly.

I let this invasion of privacy go, until I start getting punched, kicked, and elbowed randomly.  I have it on video where I was getting hit so often (roughly every 10 seconds) and so hard, that I actually even dropped my camera onto the floor.  You can actually see in the video each and every time I am hit (the camera jolts).  Remember, I am currently pregnant, too.  I got hit a few times in my stomach, and boy did it hurt the next day!  (Little girl was wearing boots, too.  Ouch!)

I did glance over a few times to see what the fuck they were doing to randomly start hitting me.  Apparently, the little girl was NOT happy with laying across both our laps...she needs to be constantly flipped up into sitting position for funsies.  So, they were basically playing and injuring me in the process.


Sadly, my husband was too absorbed in trying to keep the baby calm...to actually swap seats with me.  We tried to switch at some point, but they started another song and I couldn't move while recording.  Sigh.

I do say something: "Please stop hitting me".  There is no response from either the mother or her daughter from this.  They continue to keep hitting me.  I try to ignore it and focus on my daughter...until....

My daughter's grade starts singing a Meow song.  Not the Meow Mix commercial song, just some random Meow song where they repeat the Meow word over and over again.  My daughter's grade is working on harmonizing this year, so it was basically them showing off how well they can harmonize with each other.

While recording, this woman and her daughter begin to berate the children on stage and talk about how stupid the song is (not our kids' choice of what they sing!).  They are doing this VERY loudly.  So loudly that I am basically ONLY getting their conversation on tape and you can barely hear the kids' singing.  I am fucking livid at this point, but strive not to show it.

This is how the next encounter went:

Me (looking her dead in the eye) - "You know, we were quiet during when your child was performing.  I would appreciate it if you were respectful and quiet during when MY child is performing."

Her (snarky, belitting tone and rolling her eyes) - "Calm down"

Me - "You are being exceptionally rude to the other children right now."

Her - No comment to me, but whispers something negative into her daughter's ear about how to ignore me.

**They continued hitting me for the rest of the performance.  I tasted that little girls' hair more times that I have my own.  I even got kicked in the face after the confrontation, but let that go and didn't say shit.  I figured it'd all be over soon.   We got out of there as FAST as we could.**

You know, it's one thing if you are going to be rude to the rest of the parents that are trying very hard to watch their kids perform.  It's completely another thing when you assault someone for over an hour (the concert with JUST my kid's grade lasted roughly 1 hour 20 minutes) and are completely DISRESPECTFUL of the children that worked SO hard to put on this show for their parents.

I actually have the "confrontation" on video.  She still doesn't understand why I was upset.  I shouldn't have to inform someone about social graces and tell them to behave themselves.  This is a fucking adult, you should not have to tell someone to stop injuring you or stop interrupting a performance that your kid isn't even in.


The next day, she showed up at the school with her dog again (I took a picture).  She was trying to show off and was sending me "mean looks" until the kids came out from school.  Once she was enveloped in the "omg" cries from the other kids, she finally stopped staring at me.

Sadly, this is typical Utard behavior.  All about that entitlement and they are raising their kids this way.  My own kids would NEVER behave or even touch another person without permission.  Hers?  Nope.  We don't care if we punch, kick, or hit a pregnant woman.

Fucking retarded.  Can't wait to move!

School Lunch Debacle

Two weeks ago, I received a phone call about my daughter supposedly owing money for breakfast.  I listened to the message three times, and actually realized that it was NOT my child they were calling about.  We just happen to have the same last name as the BOY involved.  I showed up at the school, paid the $4.95, and straightened it all out.  It turns out she was actually ABSENT on the day of the charge.  My daughter also eats breakfast at HOME.  My other daughter has a POSITIVE account balance (odd I know, as I haven't paid anything into it).  So, while my oldest has a positive balance...my youngest had a negative FOR NO REASON.

After speaking to the other secretary, apparently the accounts were not longer being linked together.  For some reason MY phone number and information was listed as this kids' contact information.  We were to receive no more future calls about this and it was supposedly handled.

However, today, I just received yet another call about how she owes another $4.95 (SAME EXACT AMOUNT) from October (SAME EXACT DAY) for an entire lunch and is past due.  Not only does the woman in the message call her P Teegan (NOT her name), but she claims that it still needs to be addressed.  1)  My daughter's name is NOT Teegan, 2)  She brings her lunch EVERY DAY with her to school, 3) It was handled and I thought taken care of, 4) They aren't the same SEX or in even the same GRADE at this school, 5)  It is a smallish school, and they KNOW who my kids are.

I am LIVID.  I thought I handled this.  I even paid the balance before, due mainly to trying to keep the peace or it being a simple error.  We were finished.  I am going to now have to speak to the principal about this matter, as it has obviously NOT been resolved.  I am NOT paying for this kids' lunch this time, I already paid for his breakfast.  His PARENTS need to fix their shit and I need to stop being harassed for a kid that isn't even mine.


Update:
Spoke to the secretary that Monday.  It was supposedly cleared up again.  My daughter received a note home that Tuesday from her teacher about her supposed outstanding balance. I threw it out.

On Friday, my daughter forgot her lunch at home - on purpose.  I was in the middle of driving it back to the school (8:15am), when I received a phone call that my daughter ONLY brought a lollipop with her to lunch.  She wasn't even EATING lunch that early, but they were calling me to basically go: "Oh, so you lied".

I informed the secretary that I didn't live that far away, and to refuse her a lunch meal.  I would drop off her lunch from now on if she forgets it.  I made my daughter apologize, too, as she left the lunch at home on purpose.

So, now, I look like a liar.  God damn it.

But, supposedly, the kid's account is no longer linked to mine.  Good.

Local Craigslist Beggars

Just scrolling through Craigslist, when I saw what I hate the most.  Wanted ads for help.  They have been starting earlier and earlier this year.  Most of these are actually from around Nov. 8th - way in advance of the holidays.  They still all irritate the garbage out of me regardless.  So, I am sharing the love.  Have fun.  I sure laughed at a lot of these specific "needs".

 

Help for christmas please

 "I'm in need of help for 3 kids and a mom the kids age range from 1,3,4 the little girl size is 3t and she loves pink pretty princess and spongebob her shoe size is 8, the 1 year old is 2t and he loves spongebob and elmo his shoe size is between 6 and 7 wide bright colors, and the 4 year old 4t to 5t and spongebob and cars his shoe size is 9 and color is blue/green , and the mother is in need of clothes size 6 and shoes size 8 and she loves red"

Boy, that is pretty damn specific.  What is that phrase?  Beggars can't be choosers.

single mom needs help ***ISO*** - $10

"Hi everyone, so I hate to ask for help but this time I need it. I'm a recently single mother of 4 children. My fiance and I, of 4 yrs, split up and I have to move out. I have applied for apartments around this area... but my problem is I have nothing except my kids bunk beds. I need help finding everything for an apartment for cheap or free, and in decent condition. Please let me know if anyone can help.... we would truly appreciate it!!! Kinda a list below....

couch and love seat
end an coffee tables
dining table set
TV stand
dressers
adult bedroom set
microwave
toaster
mixer
silverware
cups
and pretty much anything household
?washer an dryer


Thank you so much for at least taking the time to read this!!!!"

Wow....you can't go buy a cheap $5.00 fork/knife/spoon set at Walmart?  This is a LOT of furniture and UNNEEDED items on this list.  These are mainly WANTS - NOT needs.

Needing Help

"If there is anyone out there who could help a struggling mother please. I just got a new job and this check will barely be enough to cover my groceries. I just moved into a new apartment after getting out of a relationship. My savings got me and my daughter a place but i don't have money for much else. My cell phone bill is two months behind and i need help. I will give you all my account info so we don't really even have to speak. my bill is currently 232.00 and i need my phone to communicate with daycare and evening pick-ups or even if something went wrong and the school needed to contact me. Again its not a scam just became this in need."

Yeah, sure, your cellphone bill is at the VERY top of my priorities.  Get a vonage phone, and get rid of your cellphone.  A cellphone is a LUXURY.

TIRES PLEASE HELP 265/70/16

"Please help me help my husband, he has had multiple surgeries including amputations. I need help please the tires on our GMC are bad and winter is here sliding around on the road is scary. The love of my life ('s) health is not good and in order to get him to and from the doctor I hate to ask but am desperate, please is there anyone who can help us the tires on our truck are bad, we really need help."

Because you know I am going to spend roughly $1k on snow tires for your car.  She hates to ask, yet doesn't feel any shame asking...how about asking neighbors, family, friends...taking a bus FIRST.

Please help the kids get something for Christmas

"I'm hoping to find a business or family to adopt our family for Christmas. I (mom) am disabled and trying to get disability but it is a long process and dad just recently went back to work, following my brain surgery. He is also only working part time to make sure I will be ok on my own. I used to be able to work and we supported our family on our own. We have 6 amazing kids that right now are not going to have anything under the tree. And when I say nothing that is not an exaggeration, right now they will wake up to find no presents from Santa. These poor parents can't afford anything this year. Please someone help give these awesome kids the Christmas they deserve"

 

She's disabled, AND supposedly had brain surgery.  She has 6 kids, which is very obvious with that many kids...that she was NOT too disabled to MAKE those kids.  She says it is about her, then later changes it to: "These poor parents".  So, what?  You or not?

 

 

Christmas help needed (485971)

"Please help me get my 3 kids Christmas this year!"

 

Uh, no.

 

 

 

can you help?

 

"I have a Friend that had a very bad motorcycle wreck in Oct.
He has Had many surgeries and many more to go.
He exceeded the medical expenses that the insurance
would cover in the first day. He will not be able to work for at least
A year. We are trying to raise money for living expenses. He
has a wife and 3 kids that will not be able
To have any kind of Christmas or anything else.
We are trying to raise money to help them out.
We are having a benefit auction at the Kingstone
center on December 13, 2014 We have also set up a go fund me
Account. Anything even a dollar helps. Please
help us help this sweet family. Before they lose
their house. Everything is appriciated. You can
also call or Text me if you can donate anything
for our benefit auction. I will arrange to get it picked
Up. Thank you and god bless. I have posted
the go fund me link below.


Www.gofundme.com/cowboycodyle wreck"

 

So, friend has an accident...has multiple surgeries...has wife/3 kids (amazing how SHE can't work).  They are having a benefit auction and either want STUFF to sell or money.  Jesus.  When you go to the campaign, it doesn't exist btw.

Help for the holiday?

"Hi , I'm a single mom and not currently working I need help with donations of items so my children can have a Christmas.
Also for a Christmas tree and lights.

Boy size 7 pants and small shirt socks underwear size 1 for shoes likes hot wheels nerf guns coloring

Baby boy size 6-9 months clothes
Huggies size 3 wipes toys
Allergic to pampers

Girls size 6 pants and xs/small shirts size 12 shoe socks underwear likes barbies , babies coloring


They all would really appreciate anything. Thanks I'm advance.
Happy holidays!"

 

Dear lord.  I thought the other one was super specific.  No, no, no.  This one takes the cake!

 

 

help please

"Hi my name is mike I'm a father of a 23 month old little boy and have a stay at home wife we currently had 2 cars break down and had to sell them to try to stay on top of our bills because I lost my job due to no transportation. we now have transportation but are behind on our rent in Wellington 775 can any body help me and my family please. This is not a scam my sons name is Xavier and my wife's name is Erin and we live in Wellington Colorado"

 

Seriously, even if this isn't a scam...you are posting your personal information on the internet for the world to see.  Loses a job due to no transportation?  Seriously, what is WITH people thinking they can't use a public bus or WALK to work??

 

 

need help with xmas

"I dont like asking for help but i dont have the money for christmas for my babies im staying with a friend a just lost my job i dont know what to do being a single mom is very hard i have no family here either that makes the holidays worse well if u can please help call or text 3852447551 thnkz an god bless i have 3 boys 6m 4 y an 6 y"

 

Another that doesn't like to ask for help, yet is...AND is staying with a friend for FREE.  Single mother that can easily get WIC, SNAP, etc.  Seriously, and one of the kids is 6 months old?  Just popping them out, aren't ya?

 

 

NEED HELP FOR CHRISTMAS

"Need any help for Christmas have 8 kids and. Just got layed off so if any one could help would be very nice thanks"

 

This one has 8 kids!  Why do these people have so many kids, and WHY don't they get a job doing anything to support their family...instead of begging!

 

 

 

just a little help

"I normally dont ask for help but im a single mama and im in need of extra food i just moved here and i have not cat foodstamps yet there in prosesess and i just need a little to get by if anyone has any they can spare please let me know"

 

Foodstamps actually takes little to no time to be approved. If you call the number in our state, you can be approved over the phone and receive help instantly.  This is basically a full of shit post.

a little help this christmas please (Twin Falls)

"im in need of clothes for a 25 yr old male he is in need of pants size 36x32 large shits and and boxers medium please and long socks its just hard this month for us"

 

Well, gee, it's been a hard year on just about everyone!  But, hey, let's just get a 25 year old a bunch of free stuff because he's had it hard this year!

 

 

 

Please Help!

"Christmas in just around the corner and I have no way of getting 2 kids a thing son wants some thermal tops and bottoms and some pajama pants he also would like a phone (boost mobile) he wears a men's medium Girl wants a video game for xbox one she needs some winter tops and some thermal socks these kids have endured so much over the last few years I don't want to feel like I am letting them down again"

 

So, boy kid wants a specific type of cellphone.  Wow.  The girl kid wants an Xbox game ($60.00).  These kids sound like spoiled little shits.  If you are truly having hard times for "the last few years", you SELL the Xbox and your kid does NOT ask for a cellphone!

 

 

needing help for Christmas

"I'm needing help for Christmas for my two children. I have a girl that wears 5T and a boy that wears 6-9 months. Please anything would help. Even hand me downs. Thanks"

 

When did hand me downs become a disgrace??   My own kids wear hand me downs.  But, anything would help...EVEN hand me downs.  Are you fucking out of your mind?  If I won't buy my own kids new shit, what makes you think I'll buy yours new shit?

need help with christmas - $5

"we just moved here from Boise, I would like to get my two little boys some items for Christmas but I have only $5 to my name and neither my husband or I have a job at the moment. were hoping there is someone out there who would be able to donate to my little boys. they asked for a special thing, so I listed below what they need and what they asked for.

their ages are 2 &3

2 yr old-
pants size 3T
shirts size3T
he loves elephants, and Monsters inc.
asked for a color book and crayons

3 yr old-
pants size 4 or 5
shirts size 4
he loves frogs and cars
Asked for a cars themed bed set for his twin bed"

 

Thrift stores are your friend.  Coloring books and crayons at the dollar store.  Cars themed bed set?  Seriously?

 

 

Christmas Help

"Looking for some help to give my kids Christmas this year. We have had a rough time since we moved here and things still are not looking up and don't want the kids punished for it."

 

God forbid your move effect your kids in ANY way.  I personally liked the Christmas picture they posted with their begging.  It's really NOT hard to make Christmas special, even if you have very little money to your name.

 

 

 

needy family need help loan

"Our family is in need of help. Both parents have been out of work for 6 months. My husband finally found a job but won't get a paycheck for another 2 weeks. Our payments are all extremely late we've even pawned to get through but are losing our things everyday at a fraction of what they're worth. Our daughter is growing fast needs diapers and warm clothes. Since my husband has just started work today we can't get a loan, we've tried everything. I am hoping someone is out there who will help us this holiday season, or even help with a short term loan. We'll pay 20-30% wed be so grateful. We can make payments till February when we can pay the rest of it off. All we want is for our daughter to have the life she deserves. We all live I'm one small room were renting and about to be evicted for non payment. The last thing I want is her to be out in the cold if we lose our housing and car.
I hope someone or anyone can find it in their hearts to help.
Thank you"

 

Poor babies.  Not going to get a paycheck until oh geez...a week before Thanksgiving!  This is also posted for Christmas.  Their child is even still in diapers and probably won't even remember half the shit they get her.  I'd not trust them to pay off their loan.  You don't lend money to strangers for a reason.

Holiday Help Needed. Please look

"Hi. I am posting to get some help for a friend. She just lost her job, fiancé ran off, so she is getting kicked out of their apartment because she cant afford it by herself, and has no family in the area to help. She has a 1 1/2 year old baby girl, and another on the way. Any help would be appreciated. I want to help them have a good holiday despite current circumstances. Thanks in advance."

 

This was also posted two weeks before Thanksgiving.  Didn't even pass Turkey Day and people are already begging for Christmas.  Crazy.  If she can't afford the apartment by herself, time for her to put on her big girl panties and figure shit out.  Soon to be two kids and can't even afford one.  Jesus.  What has this world come to?

 

 

 

In the end, I have no sympathy for Craigslist or any beggars.  I donate to local charities with my time and sometimes my tithing.  My own family comes first.  We have been through thick and thin together.  Sometimes things are rough. We never begged.  We never harassed others for help.  We didn't even bother our own families (who live VERY far away and have their OWN issues).  We sucked it up, and dealt with it.  It's called being a responsible adult and a fantastic parent.

Sadly, we come from a day and age where Christmas is the most greedy holiday of them all.  People will never learn and it will continue to get worse.  The entitlement and selfishness of some of the posts I have seen are just through the roof.  You don't NEED the world to have a great holiday.  You WANT the world.

All of these posts have a few things in common:  They are begging random strangers to help them out of some (most likely false) terrible situation.  They are unrepentant of their actions/words.  They are asking for hand outs.  They are usually REALLY specific in their WANTS.  There are other ways to get what they WANT, but instead they beg strangers.  They ALWAYS have a sob story.