I haven't ever seen the show and I've read all of the comments. I am amazed at how hypocritical some of the posters have been. I see people making comments about how it is okay for a black person to say it, but not a white person to. That is wrong. You all talk about racism and how wrong it is. Do you realize how racist some of you sound just because you say a white person can NOT say it, but a black person can? We live in America, we should ALL be able TO say it or ALL not able to say it.
I even read the argument between Cali and Perionne (sp?). Cali keeps referring to Kim as the "white woman". How would you feel if I kept referring to you as the "black woman"? I'm pretty sure you'd be offended. She has a name, and you have not used it once (from what I saw). This also makes you look racist, or rather uncaring.
As per the actual "offense"? She named a band (whom I've never even heard of until now) by their name, and now people are upset about it. I can understand that. But, what I understand even more is that I am from the NE of the US. African-Amerians (is this still the PC term?) call white people w1ggars all the time and we laugh it off. There have been racist terms for WHITE and HISPANIC people as long as there have been for African-Americans.
Yes, the word could be construed as a bad word. However, if you are offended by a WORD maybe you should be considering WHY it offends you so much. Slavery happened over 100 (?) years ago. Most of us were NOT directly affected by it and have EQUAL opportunities (if not more then other races) for employment, schooling, financial aid (etc). For the people bringing slavery into this - please don't. It's like talking about what exactly happens in Iraq, when you've never even been there.
I'd also like to make a comment about the racist folks who are saying white people are constantly holding up line with food stamps, etc. Please. Do your research before you actually post something as ignorant as that. Majority of folks on food stamps (which btw, it is NOT white people) are illegals - of ANY race. Look at the latest census for proof, turns out they have been getting illegal benefits for YEARS and taking it away from people that actually NEED it.
As per it being looked bad for being on WIC (I saw a few comments on this), we are a military family and make little to nothing for our service. We have been on WIC since I was pregnant with my first daughter (of 2). This does NOT mean we are trailer park trash, or worthless in society. In fact, we make less then min. wage - and I had to personally give up my job as an ADA for my husband's military career. It all comes down to this - just because you stand in line an extra 5 seconds, doesn't mean they are a waste of humanity. It means they are rough times, living off money less then YOU do. Have some compassion (esp. if you claim to be "Christian") and get over the wait. We are a military family, putting OUR lives and FAMILY on the line so you can keep spewing your junk. Keep that in mind.
She did nothing wrong. She named a band (?). Worse things are said everyday towards other people, and I don't see HALF of the response I do for that. What about the protests on the military grave sights? Not much support there as there is a sh1tstorm over THIS! Get a grip!
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Don't Ask, Don't Tell
We received the survey in the mail, filled it out, sent it back. So the survey WAS sent out to actual military families. We obviously wrote down that we don't care if someone is gay or not, as long as they have my hubby's back. Pretty much how it goes in war. Anyone who has never been to Iraq, has no idea how important that is for our guys.
As per the people claiming that IF this old school law is abolished, that we would need to completely re-organize our housing (etc) to accommodate the gays...srsly, really? There have been gays in the military for decades. They obviously had no issue with being gay living in a normal facility with people, so why bother even segregating them further?
I think what it comes down to is this: If you aren't military, shut the fuck up about your opinion on this. If you are, you are probably smart enough to realize that what they do behind closed doors is none of our business. Hell, it's not like the gays are suddenly going to rape my husband in the shower. Come on now. Get a grip people.
Get rid of the policy, don't change a thing. We're good. Oh, and pay us more assholes. And if anyone is wondering why the actual military members NEVER comment on things like this (except mainly deserters or one signed contract people - aka doing it for the min amount of time), is because they CAN'T. They job is to protect our rights to say whatever the fuck we want to. Not to get involved in random bullshit, and you can all stop fucking protesting near my house - kthx.
PS. We are ARMY, meaning we do the longest tours (3 so far, 15 months each), so if you are Navy or Air Force doing your 4 month long tours - I don't care for your worthless opinions about being in Iraq. Do 3 15 month tours then call me and give your opinion.
PPS. Hubby has been babysitting ROTC recruits and with the mandatory Army Ball coming up, I am still not happy with babysitting 18 yr olds who obviously think it's "cool" to be military. They obviously still know jack shit about the military. Please, get a clue you fucking noobs, it's not all fucking roses!!!
As per the people claiming that IF this old school law is abolished, that we would need to completely re-organize our housing (etc) to accommodate the gays...srsly, really? There have been gays in the military for decades. They obviously had no issue with being gay living in a normal facility with people, so why bother even segregating them further?
I think what it comes down to is this: If you aren't military, shut the fuck up about your opinion on this. If you are, you are probably smart enough to realize that what they do behind closed doors is none of our business. Hell, it's not like the gays are suddenly going to rape my husband in the shower. Come on now. Get a grip people.
Get rid of the policy, don't change a thing. We're good. Oh, and pay us more assholes. And if anyone is wondering why the actual military members NEVER comment on things like this (except mainly deserters or one signed contract people - aka doing it for the min amount of time), is because they CAN'T. They job is to protect our rights to say whatever the fuck we want to. Not to get involved in random bullshit, and you can all stop fucking protesting near my house - kthx.
PS. We are ARMY, meaning we do the longest tours (3 so far, 15 months each), so if you are Navy or Air Force doing your 4 month long tours - I don't care for your worthless opinions about being in Iraq. Do 3 15 month tours then call me and give your opinion.
PPS. Hubby has been babysitting ROTC recruits and with the mandatory Army Ball coming up, I am still not happy with babysitting 18 yr olds who obviously think it's "cool" to be military. They obviously still know jack shit about the military. Please, get a clue you fucking noobs, it's not all fucking roses!!!
Friday, October 15, 2010
Parenthood - Jasmine and Crosby (Part 2)
No one is saying that all the kids in the world need to be raised the same exact way, I'm not sure why you jumped to this conclusion. But, we are saying that moving around every 3-4 weeks is a bad situation for ANY kid. As a military spouse, I am super judgemental about that sort of thing. My husband and I put our kids first. To the extent of buying a house when they started school, and both of us living in seperate states until he retired. It worked out well for our well-adjusted children, and when I asked them about it later - they were really happy with the decision we made. If we had of kept moving around to "follow dreams", we would have little emo anti-social kids running around. I'd rather my kids grow up with their friends and be in the same school EVERY school year. That is MY parenting choice, and it has turned out for the better.
I feel that as a parent, you are required to make special sacrifices for your children. Picking them up and moving them around every 3-4 weeks is NOT a sacrifice, it's leaving that child with attachment issues. I don't care if it's the summer. That child should at least be in one place for ONE school year, not every month being in a different place. If you noticed, not even military families move THAT often. It's MAYBE once every year.
I see a problem with her moving because I had the same exact choice to make. I picked the correct decision to put my own kids first, drop my career, put my relationship on hold, and gain stability in our hectic household. I hated living out of boxes, and now I'm hating being a single parent. That's MY decision though. I put MY kids first, she did NOT. She put her CAREER (something inanimate) over her CHILD (something LIVING).
Having a dream career is one thing. If your kid is suffering because of it, it's an entirely different thing. I'm happy that she realized her kid should come first, and that she missed being around him. However, I don't think she would have made that decision if Jabbar had been forced to go to Europe with her.
I think that Crosby stepped up to the plate the minute he found out, and that he is attempting to be a good dad. I give him props for that, but I don't think that makes him a "sperm" donor. He was denied his child's birth and the 5 years following, because SHE wanted to follow her career. That is a big no-no. He has rights, and he missed out on a lot, because of HER.
What harm has been done by her? He doesn't have a stable household, no stable parental influence, different rules, different schools, different everything. Moving around is no biggie, once in a while. But in the REAL world, people don't move that much if they have children. Following your job is one thing, following it around the world with a 5 yr old in tow, is completely different.
Aside from the direct impatct on Jabbar's life, she also denied him his father. She didn't inform Crobsy he even had a son until she wanted to pick up and follow her dream AGAIN. That's a serious lapse in judgement. It is not a logical choice to be a single parent, and turn her family against him, when he obviously would have stepped up (as he did now). She wanted to be selfish and travel the country. She denied Crosby his parental rights, and his son his father. In my eyes, that is a serious breach in her character.
In the end, she chose to have that child. No one beat her or forced her to give birth. She did that all on her own. Now, she needs to raise it and should have been doing so from the start. Please remember that Crosby was an unknowing sperm donor, and he even stated if he had known, he would have stepped up sooner. That was HER decision and you are taking it out on him.
It takes a much bigger person to give up their dream for their child, then it does to put their dream over their child's needs. That's what it comes down to. Her job isn't a 9-5pm job. It's moving around all over the place, AND dragging her child with her. That's why the REAL parents who REALLY put their kids first should be given props. Rather the selfish parent who didn't give one whit about her kid while she did all of the dragging.
You can have your dream, just not right now. Wait until your kid is grown up and out of your house. That is what REAL parents do. She put her "dream" (if it's even that to her), over her child that she CHOSE to have. In making that choice, she should have realized the responsibility that came along with it. She didn't, or chose not to accept that responsibility. Hence, she is a SELFISH/LAZY parent.
Real parents make those sacrifices everyday, we shouldn't give her props for finally deciding to put her child first (after 5 years?). This should be considered a requirement for parenthood. My husband, myself, and our friends put our children first over our dreams nonstop. It's called being a parent.
I agree that she still has some growing up to do, but I believe that it took her a little too long to realize that. The minute her kid was born, she should have been stepping up to the plate. Not 5-6 years later. This is called lazy parenting.
Ask any REAL parent out there what their dream job or dream is. Most likely they don't have that dream job anymore because the kids come first. They should always come first.
My point is: We shouldn't give props to someone who should have been doing this all along. Crosby has an excuse for being left out of his son's life (due to her), and he obviously stepped up to be a REAL parent immediately. She only realized it years later. That's a big difference in my eyes.
On that note, let's thank all the dead beat dads or moms who suddenly disappear and then reappear in their children's lives 20 years later. No, I don't think so. They screwed up their child's childhood, and now they want to reap the rewards. Granted, Jasmine is as bad, but she put herself first for a good 5 years. That's not how parenthood works. YOU can have YOUR dream when your kids are 18 and living outside of your house. You chose to have that kid, now you can raise it.
I feel that as a parent, you are required to make special sacrifices for your children. Picking them up and moving them around every 3-4 weeks is NOT a sacrifice, it's leaving that child with attachment issues. I don't care if it's the summer. That child should at least be in one place for ONE school year, not every month being in a different place. If you noticed, not even military families move THAT often. It's MAYBE once every year.
I see a problem with her moving because I had the same exact choice to make. I picked the correct decision to put my own kids first, drop my career, put my relationship on hold, and gain stability in our hectic household. I hated living out of boxes, and now I'm hating being a single parent. That's MY decision though. I put MY kids first, she did NOT. She put her CAREER (something inanimate) over her CHILD (something LIVING).
Having a dream career is one thing. If your kid is suffering because of it, it's an entirely different thing. I'm happy that she realized her kid should come first, and that she missed being around him. However, I don't think she would have made that decision if Jabbar had been forced to go to Europe with her.
I think that Crosby stepped up to the plate the minute he found out, and that he is attempting to be a good dad. I give him props for that, but I don't think that makes him a "sperm" donor. He was denied his child's birth and the 5 years following, because SHE wanted to follow her career. That is a big no-no. He has rights, and he missed out on a lot, because of HER.
What harm has been done by her? He doesn't have a stable household, no stable parental influence, different rules, different schools, different everything. Moving around is no biggie, once in a while. But in the REAL world, people don't move that much if they have children. Following your job is one thing, following it around the world with a 5 yr old in tow, is completely different.
Aside from the direct impatct on Jabbar's life, she also denied him his father. She didn't inform Crobsy he even had a son until she wanted to pick up and follow her dream AGAIN. That's a serious lapse in judgement. It is not a logical choice to be a single parent, and turn her family against him, when he obviously would have stepped up (as he did now). She wanted to be selfish and travel the country. She denied Crosby his parental rights, and his son his father. In my eyes, that is a serious breach in her character.
In the end, she chose to have that child. No one beat her or forced her to give birth. She did that all on her own. Now, she needs to raise it and should have been doing so from the start. Please remember that Crosby was an unknowing sperm donor, and he even stated if he had known, he would have stepped up sooner. That was HER decision and you are taking it out on him.
It takes a much bigger person to give up their dream for their child, then it does to put their dream over their child's needs. That's what it comes down to. Her job isn't a 9-5pm job. It's moving around all over the place, AND dragging her child with her. That's why the REAL parents who REALLY put their kids first should be given props. Rather the selfish parent who didn't give one whit about her kid while she did all of the dragging.
You can have your dream, just not right now. Wait until your kid is grown up and out of your house. That is what REAL parents do. She put her "dream" (if it's even that to her), over her child that she CHOSE to have. In making that choice, she should have realized the responsibility that came along with it. She didn't, or chose not to accept that responsibility. Hence, she is a SELFISH/LAZY parent.
Real parents make those sacrifices everyday, we shouldn't give her props for finally deciding to put her child first (after 5 years?). This should be considered a requirement for parenthood. My husband, myself, and our friends put our children first over our dreams nonstop. It's called being a parent.
I agree that she still has some growing up to do, but I believe that it took her a little too long to realize that. The minute her kid was born, she should have been stepping up to the plate. Not 5-6 years later. This is called lazy parenting.
Ask any REAL parent out there what their dream job or dream is. Most likely they don't have that dream job anymore because the kids come first. They should always come first.
My point is: We shouldn't give props to someone who should have been doing this all along. Crosby has an excuse for being left out of his son's life (due to her), and he obviously stepped up to be a REAL parent immediately. She only realized it years later. That's a big difference in my eyes.
On that note, let's thank all the dead beat dads or moms who suddenly disappear and then reappear in their children's lives 20 years later. No, I don't think so. They screwed up their child's childhood, and now they want to reap the rewards. Granted, Jasmine is as bad, but she put herself first for a good 5 years. That's not how parenthood works. YOU can have YOUR dream when your kids are 18 and living outside of your house. You chose to have that kid, now you can raise it.
Monday, October 11, 2010
Neighbor's Dog Shit
I recently noticed dog shit in my backyard. For a while there our grass was green and growing perfectly well. Now, it is all dead and random piles of dog shit keep popping up in our BACK yard. Our back yard is huge. The piles are right off of our back patio, right by our back door. I stepped in it yesterday afternoon when I was taking the girls out to play. In flip flops. Not fun.
We've had numerous issues with these neighbors before. These are the fucked up neighbors that don't watch their kids and basically don't even talk to us. They are the source of our gossip issues. I'm not surprised.
They left their dog chained up all summer long in a small cage and barely let it out. It reached over a 100 degrees during summer, and the dog would still be out there barking all day/night long. We didn't think we should call anyone because we had literally just moved in, and didn't want to cause a stink. It's their dog, so why worry?
Well, worry we have been recently. I first noticed the random piles of shit at the end of the summer. They had started taking their dog back inside their house, and letting it loose at night to do it's business. Two nights ago, I heard a dog barking like it was literally outside of my kitchen window. I flipped on the outside light switch, and there was their big husky dog taking a shit in our yard. What.the.fuck.
So, the next day, I went outside with the kids like we always do. Before, I had noticed random shit piles and cleaned it up. This time, I completely forgot about the shit and stepped right into a pile. Upon further closer inspection, there was over 15 piles in my yard. In the same general area.
I am not happy. We filed a police complaint, and have returned their "presents" onto their driveway. There are some piles in the front, but we decided to just clean those up ourselves. I'm honestly surprised that this is the reason our grass was dying, but apparently dog piss can burn and destroy grass. I should have known this.
God, I can't wait till we get a fence. I know our yard is a mess, but shit, if you want it cleaned up - pick up after your dog and don't let it loose.
Update: After filing the complaint, they are now leaving their presents on the sidewalk. I wrote in sidewalk chalk to "stop shitting here", and threw the piles back into their yard.
We've had numerous issues with these neighbors before. These are the fucked up neighbors that don't watch their kids and basically don't even talk to us. They are the source of our gossip issues. I'm not surprised.
They left their dog chained up all summer long in a small cage and barely let it out. It reached over a 100 degrees during summer, and the dog would still be out there barking all day/night long. We didn't think we should call anyone because we had literally just moved in, and didn't want to cause a stink. It's their dog, so why worry?
Well, worry we have been recently. I first noticed the random piles of shit at the end of the summer. They had started taking their dog back inside their house, and letting it loose at night to do it's business. Two nights ago, I heard a dog barking like it was literally outside of my kitchen window. I flipped on the outside light switch, and there was their big husky dog taking a shit in our yard. What.the.fuck.
So, the next day, I went outside with the kids like we always do. Before, I had noticed random shit piles and cleaned it up. This time, I completely forgot about the shit and stepped right into a pile. Upon further closer inspection, there was over 15 piles in my yard. In the same general area.
I am not happy. We filed a police complaint, and have returned their "presents" onto their driveway. There are some piles in the front, but we decided to just clean those up ourselves. I'm honestly surprised that this is the reason our grass was dying, but apparently dog piss can burn and destroy grass. I should have known this.
God, I can't wait till we get a fence. I know our yard is a mess, but shit, if you want it cleaned up - pick up after your dog and don't let it loose.
Update: After filing the complaint, they are now leaving their presents on the sidewalk. I wrote in sidewalk chalk to "stop shitting here", and threw the piles back into their yard.
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